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Am I making this up??
| Wed, 05-30-2007 - 5:10pm |
Ok...I think someone here might have said this and it stuck with me or else I heard it on TV or it's some quote and I don't know who said it: Why can't one be a good girl and a bad girl? Why do they have to be mutually exclusive? Or something of the like. I like it! :)

Ok, this is funny . . . .I have a whole long email going with someone about why girls like “bad boys” . . .LOL
I am a 46 year old man, and did after my devoice get very involved with a very wonderful woman. She found a time to move on . . . one of the “issues” she had was that I was to nice, to polite . . .did not bitch enough . . .
I don’t think this is “exactly” what you inferred . . . .LOL . . . but society being what it is . . . . I think we are not so far apart.
My ex . . .she said I did not bitch enough, and when I would raise my voice, I would come back and say I was sorry. I also prefer the company of woman to men . . . so at parties hung with her and the girls . . .not with the “boys”.
In her mind she saw “week” . . .”lap dog” and “clingy” . . .not her words . . .
I am a former Marine, I am capable of being anything but nice . . .LOL . . . I was nice to “her”, I loved her, what was I suppose to be . . . I did not bitch because she never made me want to . . . I said I was sorry because I meant it . . . . and hanging with the boys . . . been the better part of my life. Women are fascinating to me now.
I am guessing someone has come down on you for . . . . . . being open to desire . . . . . in private moments?
If . . .. . if . . . I am right . . .the heck with him. How many people are “bored” in that department because they lack the very thing love should bring . . .trust with you most “interment” self? Wrong guy is all. Blow it off and move on. (-:
Or . . . . .were you just making a point . . . . .LOL
Well exactly, that's what I like about it. Not bad as in screw everyone, hurt people, hating the world, self-destructive bad girl. Just having a backbone, standing up for oneself, breaking rules not simply to break rules, but because you want to...well, I know what I mean, anyway. :)
I like that in a guy, too. One who's generally a good human being, doesn't screw over everyone/woman he sees, genuinely cares about other people, but is "bad" enough to be interesting. I know I'm going to get crap for this, but I really don't like "bad boys," to me niceness and kind deeds is a turn-on, but if a guy (or girl) is perfect, it's just boring.
I think the best way to be original is to be yourself.
I want to add that I don't agree with all of Rosie's views, but I do think she's unedited. There are probably one or two folks who wish she would edit herself on occasion however.
The thing is ... they DON'T have to be mutually exclusive. And they usually aren't. And most folks would be incredibly BORING if they were only good or bad. (Which leads me to thinking about that whole madonna/whore thing -- you're either "a good girl" or you're a whore. Noooo, don't think so!)
There's a comic strip called 'Rose is Rose'. (I think that's the title.) The title character (Rose, of course) is a wife & mom -- nicely average person. However, inside she has a long-haired, leather mini-skirt & leather jacket wearing biker chick who comes out on occasion when she feels the need to be assertive or when eating rattlesnake meat.
There's also a comic strip called '9 Chickweed Lane'. The mom is a college professor/farm owner/single mom who is also hot looking. Inside she has an alter ego who dresses like Jane from the Tarzan movies & is wild & free & swings from vines. Her daughter is a ballet dancer who has an interior alter ego called 'Superlative Girl' who has all sorts of wonderful mental adventures.
My point? What's the fun in being all good or all bad? Precious gems look their best when MULTI-faceted & polished. Ditto for human beings -- me, I prefer myself to be an emerald cut & set in platinum.
Ok . . . .just a guy again . . . the old saying . . . adjusted slightly . . . .a bit of a lady/gentleman when the bed room door is open . . . whore when closed.
Over simplified . . . we all need to challenge life now and then . . but challenging each other often does get lost in the PC view of love . . . . and . . .I am a one woman man . . . pretty normal stiff in this . . .but “normal” seems to be defined differently for girls sometimes . . not so fair.
Love should open doors . . not close them . . . just a thought.