Am i overthinking or is he Freeloading?

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Am i overthinking or is he Freeloading?
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Tue, 01-01-2013 - 11:16pm

I have been talking to this guy for 2 months now. He told me right away that he made some mistakes and had to do some jail time but now he's working towards getting his life back together and becoming a better person. So far, so good. He has been working doing jobs for a friend and he just recently stared working a second job for a restaurant. One job he gets paid under the table so the pay is large but unpredictable. Now, i have 2 issues. The 1st is that the last time he came over to my place, he brought over some beer for me. When he left, he went into my fridge and took the remaining beers home with him. Huh? The 2nd was yesterday night when he invited me over for new years eve. He was supposed to join me and some friends but then he called to say that he was still broke and felt too bad to go out without money so he rather stay in. When i was ready to head to his place, he texted me and asked if i could pick up "some booze" on my way over (which i didn't do because i'm broke myself). I don't get how he felt bad not wanting to go out without money yet he didn't feel bad asking a single mom that he's been talking to for a few weeks to bring him booze. I like him but when he did those 2 things, i felt like it was kinda weird. I know that he's still working towards getting back on his feet because he was locked up not too long ago so i'm wondering if i should just be more understanding and wait to see if things improve or if he's just freeloading. Does anyone else find this strange... What do you think about his actions?

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Mon, 01-14-2013 - 7:13pm

Then in my opinion he should not be dating if he can not afford to date! He is a cheapskate when he makes suggestions and expects me to pay for it. Why not just keep his mouth shut? He has suggested once that we go back to my place, rent a movie, cuddle and relax. Me thinking that he opted for this because he is low on cash yet still wants to enjoy time with me responds with a "Yes". Then when we get to the movie rental box, he helps me to pick a movie then looks to me to pay. This just moments after he takes me to a drive through to get me lunch and looks to me to pay. Suppose i didn't have any money on me at all! Just wrong!

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