Am I thinking too much into this?

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Am I thinking too much into this?
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Sun, 10-02-2005 - 10:56pm
I've been on 3 dates (and we've talked on the phone a bunch of time for a few hours at a time) with a guy I met online. So far he has everything that I'm looking for in a man. I know it's too soon to expect anything but he seems to be very interested but he's been on the dating site everyday since we started dating. I'm sure he's keeping his options open (like I should be) but I'm really interested but don't want to mess this up by being too open about how much I like him. We're supposed to go on a date tomorrow and he was going to call today but never did. I was on the dating site a little while ago and you can check to see who's viewed you and he did and he was online. So why hasn't he called? Now I'm not sure if I should make myself "available" tomorrow. I feel like I'm getting mixed signals. How should I handle this?
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Registered: 10-08-2003
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 11:59pm
Hi there, I am a longtime member and now I lurk. Mainly because I'm not all that single anymore.
Here it is in a nutshell, don't worry about it.
Are you having fun? Did you have fun? Do you know every little detail about him? He could be the moodiest, most frustrating person in the world. He could have a serious fungus under his toenails.
But if he really likes you. If he is really serious, he will make an effort. Don't stress over if he is going to call. If he doesn't all well. You are better off then. What do you have inside of you that is great? What do you have to offer the world? If he doesn't see these things then he is crazy and you don't want him anyway.
Men know how to use a phone, they know how to get a girls attention when they want it. Don't doubt yourself. Keep going. Even if he does call, keep going. Even if you start dating seriously, keep going. Make yourself happy because no one else can. Make your goals and stick to them. Go out with your girlfriends, go get your nails done. Don't worry about what any guy is doing, your life is too precious for that. When the right guy is there he will become a part of your life, not change it.
Keep smiling, keep your head up and remember that you are an amazing person that any guy would be lucky to have.
Good luck,
Always,
Chloe
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 1:58pm

I wouldn't worry about him being online. The two of you are not exclusive and until you specifically discuss and agree to date exclusively (which should include a discussion of taking your profiles down), he is free to meet and date others.

However, I would be a little concerned about him not calling when he said he was going to. I am a big believer in being a person of your word: doing what you say you are going to do, when you say you're going to do it. If he apologizes today for not calling and has a decent reason, then I'd cut him some slack, THIS time.

Sheri