amount of contact?

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amount of contact?
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 9:45am
Let's say you've been seeing a guy for about 2 weeks. He tells you he likes you, things seem good when you're together, but on the phone he seems sort of distant and says he's not a phone person. How often should you expect to hear from him? If he really likes you, do you expect daily contact this soon (let's say he has your e-mail address or could text message you). Or is it normal to not have daily contact with someoen you've only known a few weeks? I cant decide...
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:30pm

>It doesn't sound like his lack of contact that's
>bugging you, it's his lack of committment to seeing
>you again.

You don't think the two are related?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:31pm

I don't think it's such a new thing.

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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:36pm

Are you calling me a liar? ;-)


Really- I don't need a guy to call me everyday.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:42pm

Sheri,

I said daily contact, which included e-mail and/or text messages not specifically daily phone calls only. I wouldn't want to call a woman everyday but writing a short e-mail doesn't take much but it achieves plenty. Your experience doesn't persuade me to believe anything other than you don't like insecure men who need to call 2-3 times/day. I’m not surprised, I don’t think any woman would like this either.

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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:45pm

I completely agree with you that when a man's interested, you know it.

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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:49pm

>>That's why I'm very cautious of that hot-fire start and not really looking for it. They burn out fast, and if a guy seems way into me really early, I get really nervous about his sincerity.<<

Amen. Me too.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:49pm

I think that if he doesn't want it after four months, he's not gonna.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:50pm

>I don't need a guy to call me everyday

We are talking about *contact* not specifically calling! If you were really into someone wouldn't you like to see an e-mail from him everyday? Wouldn't that show you he cares? At least YOU have the option to reply to it. If you want to let it sit in your inbox for a couple of days before replying that's your prerogative, but I doubt you would.

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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:51pm

If someone wants to email me every day I guess that would be ok but it would also create an expectation that I'd have to write back and I wouldn't want to feel obligated to write every single day early on.

And most guys I've dated since email became ubiquitous don't email me regularly once we've met and started dating, anyway--they *call*, which I much prefer. I don't really see the point of continuing to email once you've met (unless it's long distance or something). And you know my feelings on texting, LOL!

Sheri

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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:53pm

I'm not sure what you mean.