Analyzing everything!!!
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| Wed, 10-24-2007 - 4:32pm |
I am driving myself crazy right now! After being single for more than a year, I met a great guy! It started a few weeks ago and I think we're both pretty smitten with each other. I'm in my mid-20's and the same goes for him. We've been out a few times and always have a blast! He's indicated that he's interested in our relationship progressing, and I can't wait to learn more about him and see if there is potential for something more serious.
I liked being single although there were times when I missed having someone to share the little stuff with. Well now I found someone with actual potential and I'm driving myself nuts. Before when I dated someone, there was no spark, do I had little interest in them...well now there's a spark and I feel so vulnerable.
He calls every couple of days and is always asking when he can see me again...very good signs. But I find myself analyzing EVERYTHING...when I hang up the phone after talking to him I feel frustrated and anxious - replaying the conversation in my head. I'm afraid that I'm going to scare him off somehow...I question my own actions and reactions which is so not like me. I'm typically decisive, down to earth and confident.
So I guess I'm wondering if this is normal and how I can keep from driving myself nuts...

Yes, it's normal, but that doesn't mean you have to give into it. I've been single for three years now, and somewhere along the way I realized that the best way to keep from overanalyzing is to stay busy.
Specifically:
- Continue to date other people until you and this guy become exclusive. It helps you panic less about every move he makes because your attention is not 100% on him.
- Don't always be available. No, I'm not a "rules" girl, but I do think it is wise to reserve some time for yourself, time for friends, etc.
AJ, enjoying life with C.