Another Dateless Friday Night

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Another Dateless Friday Night
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Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:05pm
I just wanted to know if any others were experiencing the same thing? And, what are you doing instead of dating?

Me, I'm feeling quite bored. Sure, I could watch a movie, or throw myself some kind of "one-girl" soiree or something, but what's the point? The most interesting thing going on for me tonight will probably be the perfume I put on after my shower. :S And I thought being young and single was supposed to be lots of fun. Yeah right.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 2:21am
honestly, it's not that big a deal if you don't have a date on a friday night.

BUT, it's nice to get out of the darn house...

AND, it's nice if you have other single friends to hang with.

i spent my evening eatin' and seein' a movie with my friends, but they're all in couples. although not a waste of a night, it was still kinda blah.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 12:43pm
I don't really like sitting home on fri or sat nights. I would prefer to have someone else on the couch besides me if I'm renting a movie or kickin' back ;-) So I just make plans with friends...last night I went for dinner & drinks with a guy friend. Tonight, I might do the same thing with another guy friend...depends on when I'm done babysitting my nephew today.

Right now, ALL my gfs are dating up storms. Three of them are booked fri & sat this w/end so its hard not to get a *little* jealous. But they date for the sake of dating...and I will only date men when I think there is a possibility of more with them.

Remember this - when you fall in love and have children - you won't have time to yourself. You won't have the chance to explore what makes you happy. And you will need to know that b/c when everything gets crazy, you need to have "your" time and please yourself a little so you can go on...and still be in a good mood ;-)

Enjoy the exploration! Go.

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Tue, 08-12-2003 - 5:04pm
See, I know those things... yet I'm still so bored! ;) Do you have any ideas for fun, safe things to do at night, that won't keep me out late (my parents wouldn't like that, and even when I go back to college in a week, staying out late isn't the safest thing), and that don't cost a lot? Any idea will be appreciated. Thanks!
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Registered: 07-20-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 7:52pm
I know how you feel. I get a little jealous and lonely when my friends are out with their boyfriends, fiances and husbands on Fri and Sat night and I sit here with my cat watching Bridget Jones's Diary for the 100th time. Somethings I do to keep myself busy are:

-pour myself a glass of wine and take a hot bubble bath (shaving my legs of course)

-give myself a manicure, pedicure and facial

-read a book

-watch movies (usually girly ones or Sex and the City episodes I have on DVD)

-go to the local bookstore like Barnes and Noble and buy myself a latte, find a good book and sit and read (there are lots of cute, intelligent men that hang out at bookstores)

-play around with my hair and make-up so I know what looks good for when I do go out

-put on some music, make myself a margarita and dance around the house in my underwear

-work on my scrapbook (making one of my childhood years/friends and one for my family)

If you want more ideas or would like to chat, e-mail me aliceamc825@msn.com

Alicea

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Fri, 08-15-2003 - 1:05pm
Hmm, watching Sex and the City doesn't sound like a bad idea on a Friday night, or any other night. At least they make me laugh. And, I do like playing w/ makeup :S ;)

Thanks.
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Registered: 06-19-2003
Fri, 08-15-2003 - 2:32pm
Fri (or Sat) nites are what you make of them.

Tonite I'm taking it easy b/c I'm working all day Sat; I never pass up a chance to earn a little OT $. By the time I get home tomorrow afternoon I'll pick up some dinner on the way home, then come home, feed the cats and myself, watch a little TV, and by 9 pm I'll be tired enough to go to bed.

As for Fri nite, I'll probably do laundry and other little chores that I won't have time for on Sat. That'll leave all day Sun to relax for the following work day.

The most crucial thing about handling solo weekends is PLANNING; you gotta make plans so you don't fall into a useless blob of self-pity w/the "nobody loves me" blues. Before anyone else can love you, you gotta love YOURSELF.

In my prior single days (and I plan to do this again once my knee surgeries are done), I'd have my Sat nite "Date w/Myself." The whole point was to dress nicely, complete w/makeup even if I just wore jeans, and go out and do SOMEthing, even if it was a $ movie and a burger. That would get me into the habit of going out and doing something, b/c then I got more ambitious and joined a C&W dancing class, etc.

So, that said, there's no reason to bemoan your single status. Believe me, during my stormy 15-mo marriage, there were days and nites when all I wished for was the peace and quiet and occasional boredom that I now revel in. And I was never lonelier than while I was married, which is the worst loneliness I've ever known. Single, at least I'm lonely HONESTLY, and not b/c someone else is ignoring me.

Life is sometimes "fat" w/events and the anticipation of same, or "thin" w/the expectation of newer and better things to come. Maybe yours is just one of the "thin" times. Make the most of it; think of it as a lull to prepare for the busy times yet to come.

Ash