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| Sun, 09-09-2007 - 3:54pm |
Do women have the same desire to date/mate as men?
Do they just have different mating habits than men?
Do they just have different mating habits than men?

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As with something like attraction, the desire to date/mate is going to differ from woman to woman. At one end of the spectrum are those who date a different guy every night of the week, at the other those who don't date by choice, and all of those in between.
Are you asking for the specific habits/wants of the women here?
Yes . Can you elaborate on this please, thanks.
Edited 9/10/2007 11:45 am ET by jackmoin
I'm quite a loner, so don't know if this will help or is what you are looking for.
Before I went back to school, I would go out to play pool once or twice a week, movies at least once a month- depending on what was playing, coffee shop at the bookstore (after buying more books) every weekend. Wasn't going out to date or hook up, just because I wanted to. If I met someone, great, if not, I was having fun and relaxing. Strangely enough, I met and dated several guys that way.
Now (realizing the guys at work are right, I need a life) it is mainly if there is something coming out that I REALLY want to see, a freind I haven't seen for a while, or a break between classes. Honestly, I'm not really looking. If I meet someone, great, if not, its probably for the best. Yes, I miss having someone, but I would rather be alone than have the wrong someone just to have "someone."
What I want:
First meeting- be polite, respectful, friendly. Don't treat me like my mother, but dont' treat me like prostiture either. Treat me like a person. I'm a mirror. I will treat you the same way you treat me. If I'm busy one day/night, don't get p/oed. It doesn't mean that I'm blowing you off, it means that I'm busy. Don't play games, call if you say you're going to, and be yourself. Women have long memories and notice patterns. If the long term pattern doesn't match what you told her, you're in trouble.
Long term stuff
Most of what I like is down to earth. Take me to the mountains, the beach, anywhere that doesn't have a computer and is shady. If the weather is nasty, cuddle up on the couch with a stack of movies (perferably horror). Go out play pool, catch a movie, argue the meaning of the book of Revelations over a bowl of ice cream, or the validity of Jackson Pollock's art. All of those count as good dates. Don't have to spend a lot of money. I'm more impressed with how you spend your money, not how much you spend. How often depends on schedules, mine and his. I adapt. If there is time to go out and do things more often, then ok, if not, then that is fine too.
Every girl has that one thing that they would just about kill to have a guy do with them on a date- mine is the ballet, Nutcracker at Christmas. I can see the winces from here. All I want is for a guy to go with me ONCE to see it. Not take me, go with me. At this point, I'll pay for the whole bloody evening if he will show up, drive, and make sure I don't fall on my a** or get mugged downtown. Kind of hard to run in heels. For that matter, at this point he doesn't even have to be straight if he'll show up.
Hope this helps.
>>.. Nutcracker at Christmas. I can see the winces from here. <<
Nut cracker.
Does not evoke happy thoughts.
Edited 9/11/2007 2:43 am ET by capegirardeau
Every girl has that one thing that they would just about kill to have a guy do with them on a date- mine is the ballet, Nutcracker at Christmas. I can see the winces from here. All I want is for a guy to go with me ONCE to see it. Not take me, go with me. At this point, I'll pay for the whole bloody evening if he will show up, drive, and make sure I don't fall on my a** or get mugged downtown. Kind of hard to run in heels. For that matter, at this point he doesn't even have to be straight if he'll show up.
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If you’re ever in Miami when it is playing just give me a call. It would be worth sitting through the Nut Cracker just to see the smile you were wearing afterwards. (-: I am surprised such a simple request has been a challenge.
I'd love to hear more if you like to write more?
>>I am surprised such a simple request has been a challenge.
Are you kidding? The only male in the state who hasn't run away screaming at the idea is my 10 month old nephew, and that was only because he has just mastered walking. He did have the scream down rather well though. The fact that the plot is full of sword fights and the girls are wearing so little as to be practically naked doesn't matter, most guys can't get past the title and the word "ballet."
Thank you, I needed to smile after today.
I don't know if I'd want to sit through The Nutcracker with a man.
Sound? Lol! I lost my voice last week. Everyone has been telling me I should audition for a zombie movie, I sound so bad. I know what you meant, thank you, for both the compliment and making me laugh. Now stop that, you're making me cough.
What kind of stuff are you looking for? I don't know exactly how to answer, but you can pick my brain. Dibs on the loose change.
The school sends 4th graders to see the Nutcracker? Where do I sent the liquor and what do you prefer?
The fantasy never got that far. It would ususally fall apart at the front door of the theater.
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