Another question about attraction
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|Sun, 05-11-2014 - 10:19pm|
Last night I was at a dance and ran into a guy I just started getting to know. There were not that many people there so I ended up dancing with him several times and then I was surprised when he left that he gave me a hug--he seemed kind of shy. So objectively this guy is unattractive--he has very curly hair that's almost like an afro, even though he's white, a full beard but he is on the slim side so he is fit. By his looks, I should not be attracted to him, but if he asked me on a date, I would go. He's from England and has the accent, which always helps. lol From talking to him before, he seems like a nice enough guy. But then there is another guy I have known for a few years from dance school who I think likes me but I am definitely not attracted to him or interested in him--it's not only his looks. He's not terrible looking but he's like 5 ft. tall and bald but he is OLD--late 70's, so no way am I going to date a guy that old. But it's unfortunate that he's old and unattractive because he's a very nice and interesting person--we both play the piano and he's also very smart--he was a scientist before he retired.
So this led me to the thought--why is it that sometimes I have an attraction to men who I know are not good looking? I've been married twice--my 1st DH is still a good looking guy--he's probably better looking now than when he was in his 20's cause then he still had kind of a baby face and he had a mustache--looks better without it. My 2nd dH is NOT good looking. The first time I saw him, my reaction was "I would never be interested in him." I got to know him through a club so we were friends first and he kept asking me out and I was saying no, then I finally caved. But on the 1st date, I practically ordered him to kiss me--and there was a lot of kissing. And he turned out to be great at sex.
So has anyone else had this experience where you don't know why you are attracted to someone you don't think is good looking, or is it just me? lol