Another reason girls say no

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Another reason girls say no
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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 2:04pm

Guys, you know how you sometimes complain that you can't get a girl to give you the time of day, or give you a glance when you're out?

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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 3:40pm

Right on mark !!! I totally agree about that. Your post made me realize that to have insecurities is totally natural after all we are human. But when it totally rules our ability to enjoy or interact that is when we need to do something about it.

Tell me overall did you enjoy the party?

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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 2:05pm

I am beginning to realize the same thing. Yesterday I was playing volleyball with my friends and a YOUNG co-ed group came to join us. There was one girl who, for whatever reason, did not look thrilled to be on the court. She played okay but neither talked loud nor giggled like everyone else. Often she just arched her back and held her arms together....

On a related thought, I should learn how to make myself approachable. For example, lately, I begin to say hi differently. At first, it was unconscious, but it felt pretty good when I elongated it and finished it with a higher pitch....

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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 2:21pm

I had fun...except for the part when the fight broke out and someone threw a chair and it hit me.

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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 3:29pm

Cool!! that you enjoyed the party. About the whole chair thing I am so sorry about that. Hope you are doing ok? Did it hit you really bad?

You know I also do the same thing . I am not able to talk to the opposite sex. I have an accent that makes me think probably I will sound funny . Otherwise, if I am with friends no body can compete with my talking capacity.

How funny insecurities are?

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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 4:56am
So girls are as insecure as I might be? Why would a girl be insecure with someone like me? maybe a really good looking guy I could see but are you saying women are insecure with every guy?
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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 9:31am

Do you seriously think that every woman is confident about everything?

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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 1:10pm
It's not that I think women arent insecure I guess, it's more that I can't imagine a girl being insecure around ME. For example even if a woman has insecruities and I approached her I don't see why she would feel weird or awkward just because of me.
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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 3:30pm
maybe its time you asked DREW LASHEA to teach you....he was a left footer before his days on Dancing with the Stars. YES, his band days were choreographed, but he was quoted as stating that he could not dance till this. Stacy keibler, too. Never too late to learn.
Why don't you find a country dance club that has lessons and go for a few weeks. I wasn't much a choreographed dancer until i took country line dancing. I was more a freeform dancer(including help from a strippers pole). I took country line dance lessons and learned the jitterbug. I am 38 and i still plan on taking more ballroom and latin lessons soon.
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Sun, 05-14-2006 - 5:05pm

Because I have no desire to learn.

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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 1:02pm
ok now i follow you. I suppose dancing is not for everyone and it is a personal pref.
Good luck.