Anyone Else Feel This Way?

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Anyone Else Feel This Way?
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 12:45pm

I really need advice. The absolute love of my life dumped me a few months ago, so now of course I'm at the point where I'm thinking about my romantic future. But thats the problem - I don't think I am going to have one.

I'm almost 29, I live in NYC, have a very good job, fun hobbies and what I know is a great personality (everyone tells me this). I would say I am average looking, with one plus being that I am naturally a thin person. However, I feel so incredibly cursed in my love life. Aside from my ex I am probably asked out on a date one time per year. I am rarely hit on or even approached. This has been true my entire life. Even internet dating has not worked for me. My friends (guy and girl) have even said, its startling how I am single.

I don't tell anyone my feelings, which is why Im here. 90% of my friends are married or close, most starting families, and that makes me feel even worse. I know its "negative" thinking to say this, but with my abysmal record I feel like just giving up.

Does anyone have any advice? (and ppplease do not say to "focus on yourself" etc. because I already do. Ive had no choice my entire life since I have been single almost all of it!)

Thank you!

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 1:20pm

What about going the old fashioned route and joining a dating service. You go in, tell them a little bit about yourself, what you are looking for, and they do all the work! A friend of mine went in for a consulation and as it turned out, she didn't want to shell out the money. It was a tad expensive. However, she did have a lot of positive things to say about it, minus the fee.

(Sorry about your break-up)




Edited 4/23/2007 2:07 pm ET by cfk_3
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 2:04pm
We've all been there.