Anyone ever done this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2005
Anyone ever done this?
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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 9:49am

Hello -

I met a really cute/nice guy on Monday (we had talked for a week or so before that - we met through an online dating site). Well we hooked up last night.....it was kind of bizarre and I'm sort of laughing about it now (how it happened, how it ended). The only thing i'm pissed about is that he didn't use a condom - we were at his place and I forgot to bring one with me.....I'm on the pill - but diseases and all......

I'm sure he won't be calling again.......HA!

Thoughts?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2005
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 12:06pm

yikes - it sucks, but I think you should be tested for those icky diseases, and be on the lookout - since they don't all manifest right away. Tell your doctor what happened, and see where you should go from there. I'd also say ask the fellow about diseases, but guys can be pretty awful liars about that. I wouldn't necessarily trust him if he says he's clean.

And I also wouldn't keep seeing him. I think it is a sign of great disrespect for a man who you do not know well to allow this to happen. I understand it's easy to get reckless, but he clearly doesn't care much for your peace of mind.

Of course I don't know all the details of your situation, but that's my advice based on what you've said (and probably some guesses based on my own experiences). Best of luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2005
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 10:06pm

Thanks for the reply - I won't be talking to him again and am trying not to freak out about diseases.....I thought I was smarter than this....this isn't the first time I have had unprotected sex....but the other times I was seeing someone (and it was only one person)....if that makes sense.....ugh!

I'll be doing some praying...and learning of course.....how soon should I be tested? I know they dont' come right away - but it might take a while for a dr.s appointment...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2005
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 12:13pm
Every experience is a way to learn something - and it's good you want to do that! A lot of people just do whatever they want and then don't think twice about it, and that is how these things get spread around, but it sounds like you want to be responsible, and that's wonderful. I don't think you should worry too much about it, but I do think you should make a doctor's appointment as soon as possible. If you're in college (I have no idea, sorry), there's probably a clinic where you could see someone right away and easily (there might be clinics like that even if you aren't in college - maybe someone else would know, or I think there's also an STD board on ivillage where you could ask). The doctor will know more about what tests to do and when. And of course, in the meantime, be as careful as can be.
I'm really sorry you're in this situation, but it sounds like you'll take it as an opportunity for growth. Best of luck.