Anyone have any suggestions??

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Anyone have any suggestions??
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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:50am
I really don't know where to put this I almost want to say problem. I met a guy on plentyoffish.com and he is everything that I have ever wanted in a guy. He is hott very sweet he cooks, cleans, sews, knits. He loves his son so very much!! His world rotates around his son and I love that. He has told me that he would do anything for him. Our mistake was that we went out which was my first date in years. We went out to shoot pool had a blast then we went and got a movie. The whole time I just wanted to kiss him. Then the time came and we started to kiss and I loved it then one thing moved to anotherand we were under the blankets. So we had sex the best sex I have ever had I loved it. We still chat online everyday for hours at a time. Everytime we get together we end up having sex even if I tried to I could not stop myself I feel so good with him. I have wondered if he likes me for the sex. I do not know how to tell if he likes me. We chat on yahoo chat so I have not sent him any messages in almost a week. He just sees that I am on and sends me a message. I know if I stoped having sex with him that I would know if he liked me but I really can't stop. For the first time last night he kept hinting to me that he wanted to come over to watch a movie but we never even got the tv on. After sex we alway just lay there and talk and just touch each other. So now I am left not knowing if he likes me I really would like to know if he does. Does anyone have any idea's on how to tell maybe with some question I can ask to find out how he feels. I know the best thing would be to stop sleeping with him. Any help would be great. Thanks a million.

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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 7:47am

I don't think you should just quit having sex with him cold-turkey, but just talk to him about it.

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 3:48pm
The problem here is that you started a casual sex type of relationship with him. That is why I think it is important to wait to have sex with a person until you know that this person wants the same type of relationship that you do because once you cross the line and have sex before you know what he wants it is much harder to achieve a serious relationship because the majority of the time it turns into casual sex. The fact the he doesn't ask you out on regular dates and only wants to stay in is an indication that he is not looking for something serious. I think you should tell him that you want to slow down and get to know him first and you should refrain from having sex with him.
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 11:38am
Regardless if you should or should not wait to have sex with somebody, let's take a look at his behavior now, instead of looking backwards. In my opinion, if he was only looking for a booty-call, he would only be contacting you when he wants something. If he is emailing you and contacting you during the day, I would say it's a pretty good sign that we wants to at least continue getting to know you. Here is a fact. When a guy knows he can get sex, he will try to get it everytime he wants it. If you cut off all communication with him and sex, it will only confuse him. He might not know what you are thinking, and pull away. Talk with him. Tell him what you are feeling and try to go out on real dates, instead of going straight home for "movies".