Is anyone just "done"?
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Is anyone just "done"?
| Thu, 09-27-2007 - 9:38pm |
Hello,
I was at the store tonight when it occurred to me that I was over it, the whole dating thing.
| Thu, 09-27-2007 - 9:38pm |
Hello,
I was at the store tonight when it occurred to me that I was over it, the whole dating thing.
I think the fact that you talk about waiting for the right guy could be what's making you feel drained.
I can relate--the whole dating thing is really exhausting, especially when you meet man after man who just doesn't have the emotional health level you need to be happy in a serious
I'm done in the sense that I quit meat markets aka dance clubs and the like . . . I live my life for me now.
When I learned how to to let go and *be*, I found myself much, much happier. I no longer worried about when I would find the "One" or if I ever would. I honestly was finally okay just living my life and doing what made me happy.
Then I met the man that I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with.... He and I both thought that and he was the one initiating conversations about marriage, kids, and how beautiful I would be walking down the isle marrying him. Then, everything just kind of fell apart. He started acting erratically and mean spirited one moment and yet loving and affectionate the next minute. I ended up breaking up with him, to find out afterwards he has some serious addiction issues. Which I guess explained his behavior. Now he is in counseling (so am I) and we no longer speak. It's heart wrenching...
Now, I have problems getting back to where I was emotionally. I don't want to be alone and hate that lifestyle now. I just don't know how to be happy where I was before we dated.
I guess my point was this, once you can find that middle ground where you are so happy just being and living you're own life, you end up being much happier in the end.
I wish I could find that place again.