For the last few years, I have been out in pubs or clubs, or chatting to someone on a dating site and have had them turn around and say that I am ugly. It hurt me like hell and completely sapped my confidence inside me but I didnt let it show on my public face. I never gave up and carried on doing what I had always done. I never let it cloud my judgement of people as its unfair to assume everyone is the same. I was determined not to let these idiots take away my life by hiding away and moaning about how sad I was and how no one liked me etc etc. And now, at the age of 31, I have found a man who thinks im attractive and since then, many more people have told me the same. I was almost at rock bottom internally before I decided that I needed to like myself first and foremost.
You need to change your mental attitude and how you view yourself before you expect others to view you in a more positive light. All your messages seem to say the same thing - that you are not expecting anything to change and shall continue being the only guest at your pity party. You need to not give up, but to carry on and face whatever the world throws at you. You may just get that lucky break you so desperately want but you wont get it whilst you are thinking the way you do.
I just think about myself in comparison to other guys and imagine how girls must look at me. I am 23. And girls are immature but I dont see why I should just sit and wait around for a few more years for girls to mature.
I am just tired of trying to be so positive about myself in terms what the opposite sex thinks of me. I cannot honestly see why I should. There is nothing special about me. There are good things about me sure, but nothing special, I may have good qualities, but other guys may have those qualities too, plus more.
An older woman like yourself? ;) I dont seem to like any women except the ones on here. I don't know what it is. I see a guy at a bar with huge arms or dressed in nice exspensive clothes or something else and I say to myself...well I guess I'll leave he's got all the girls in this place waiting for him to come over to them...stupid I know but it wont leave my head and it wont stop bothering me.
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That's not cool at all!
All right, why do you say that?
For the last few years, I have been out in pubs or clubs, or chatting to someone on a dating site and have had them turn around and say that I am ugly. It hurt me like hell and completely sapped my confidence inside me but I didnt let it show on my public face. I never gave up and carried on doing what I had always done. I never let it cloud my judgement of people as its unfair to assume everyone is the same. I was determined not to let these idiots take away my life by hiding away and moaning about how sad I was and how no one liked me etc etc. And now, at the age of 31, I have found a man who thinks im attractive and since then, many more people have told me the same. I was almost at rock bottom internally before I decided that I needed to like myself first and foremost.
You need to change your mental attitude and how you view yourself before you expect others to view you in a more positive light. All your messages seem to say the same thing - that you are not expecting anything to change and shall continue being the only guest at your pity party. You need to not give up, but to carry on and face whatever the world throws at you. You may just get that lucky break you so desperately want but you wont get it whilst you are thinking the way you do.
Good luck.
I just think about myself in comparison to other guys and imagine how girls must look at me. I am 23. And girls are immature but I dont see why I should just sit and wait around for a few more years for girls to mature.
I am just tired of trying to be so positive about myself in terms what the opposite sex thinks of me. I cannot honestly see why I should. There is nothing special about me. There are good things about me sure, but nothing special, I may have good qualities, but other guys may have those qualities too, plus more.
antisexy,
I must have missed a couple of hundred posts. What happened to the girl you went on a date with a few weeks ago? What has made you feel so dejected?
I would recommend checking out
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhselfesteem
that may help you cope in how you look at yourself.
Take care,
Mark
I saw your picture, and I thought you were adorable!
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