appropriate time to call

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appropriate time to call
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:14am
Let's say you meet a guy on a fri/sat/or sunday and you exchange numbers. Do you think it's always best for him to be the one to call? Also when do you think is the most common time as when guys would call after getting your number? Does it vary? I've been told that any later than thursday of that week means to basically foget it. Thoughts?

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:02am
If you meet a guy on a Friday or Saturday I would say the latest he should call is on Wednesday. If he calls you later than that he is obviously not that interested and if he does end up calling you it can be a last minute/nothing better to do type of thing. I've said this many times, if he is really into you he will want to set up a time to meet up with you again and will call you within a couple of days of meeting.
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:32am
do you think sometimes guys might want to call sooner, but wait because they dont want to come off as too eager/desperate?
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 1:12pm

>do you think sometimes guys might want to call sooner, but wait because they dont want to come off as too eager/desperate?

Definitely! Some feel that if they call the day or two after it makes them seem desperate that is why they typically wait until Tuesday or Wednesday. But if they wait until Thursday for me that is too long. That being said, if he does end up calling you on a Thursday I would definitely still answer but I would be more prone to put up my guard and I would be more likely to question his true motives.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 1:53pm

I agree.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:05pm
yeah i'd never 'expect' that someoen call either, but sometimes when you have a great conversation and feel a chemistry...you kind of think they might call. But perhaps they didnt feel the same
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:30pm

And that is why dating sucks!


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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:31pm
I agree that he should call you. If you call him, it's hard to know if he just didn't have anything better to do. Same with waiting to long to call you, though I've heard guys say they have a 6-day rule..wait 6 days before you call. And I've gone through it with guys, too. Bottom line; if he wants to see you, he'll call. After that, it's just figuring why he wants to see you (motives can be less than stellar)
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:32pm

I'm a guy.

After I exchange numbers with a woman, I call her the very next day, to set something up that week.

In between dates (say between 1st date and 2nd date) I do allow a few days so I don't appear to be a 'guy with no life.'

But, after the initial exchange, I always call within 24 hrs.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:49pm
hmm, well i think the longest i've had anyone wait was a week. We still ended up going out. I think calling tues or wed after the weekend is good. Any longer than that is annoying...and i would think guys would know that.
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:05pm

I advise men to wait 7 days before calling and this isn't to avoid looking desperate. From what I read it is clear women will accept a date from a man they are interested in even after being made to wait that long. If a woman says "No" because she wanted (demanded?) a call sooner then I would question her interest level...and desperation.

How many women would turn down a date with their dream man just because he waited 7 days before calling?

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