The Aproach & older Men

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Registered: 11-30-2004
The Aproach & older Men
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 11:39am


I Would like to know how ladies like to be approached?.
I have tried several different approaches and some work better then others.

I am an older man. I still want to have a family which means I am looking for a younger woman. When a woman catches your eye and lets you know she may be interested with a little eye contact, a few to many brushes walking past you etc... what is the best thing to do?
I try not to let anyone know where I work because that leads the convo in the wrong direction and I try not to let on about any of my financial prospects. (it just invites trouble)
What is the best course of action for meeting a young woman?
I am confident and rejection is not a big deal anymore...
Any ideas?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 11:41am

Sorry shyone...

But you resorted AGAIN to another stupid stereotype! I guess you enjoy verbalizing this type of behavior from time to time, huh?

PG knows 'mature men' with more desires to 'experience new stuff' than you could possibly imagine? Unfortunately, you'd rather keep your dating possibilities narrow...which, of course, you can do!

AND YES...I'M THE POSTER YOU REFERRED TO IN THE EARLIER PORTION OF THIS THREAD WHO HAS A DIFFERENCE OF OPINION (WITH YOU) ABOUT AGE AND THE RESTRICTIONS WOMEN AUTOMATICALLY SET UP FOR THEMSELVES BY USING "AGE" AS AN EXCUSE NOT TO DATE!

Here's something to kick around...

NO MAN (irregardless of his age) expects (or will force) a woman to date him. But I think there are a lot of women who are caught up in 'playing the 'age card' that they miss out on a lot of terrific friendships! Then they turn around and make the generalization that ALL MEN ARE WORTHLESS OR ARE ONLY INTERESTED IN GETTING YOU INTO BED!

Have you ever considered the fact that it's not the age that determines whether or not we wish to participate in an event....BUT IT'S THE WAY YOU ASK OR HOW YOU APPROACH US?

If you convince us that a new experience might be FUN TO TRY...instead of "acting like a bully" or attempting to make us feel guilty if we say 'NO'...our reactions might surprise you? The tone of your voice (not to mention your enthusiasm) can make all the difference in the world between "playing the game" or "sitting on the sidelines!"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 11:59am

Did I say all older men are boring?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 12:08pm

shyone...

Pianoguy doesn't have an issue with your age preferences, only with the your inability to BEND!

But once again...an age limitation is determining the lifestyle you've chosen for yourself. So I certainly won't try to discourage you from making it a priority over having 'just a good friendship' with a maturer man or two?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 12:15pm

Let me reword.


It's not that there aren't older men that I find attractive.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 12:23pm

If you aren't trying to get me to "bend" over my age restrictions, then what are you trying to get me to bend over?


I will be completely honest here.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 2:02pm

Well, have you seen any 47 year old men naked? There are people in GREAT shape well beyond that age. Besides, I honestly never think about seeing someone naked until I am already attracted to them. If they have an attractive face and are in good shape, age doesn't matter to me. I know some men in their 40s who are in much better shape than men my age.

And my father is well into his 60s, so there is no possibility that a man will look the same as my father (who is too fat for his own good anyway).

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