are all the good ones really taken?
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are all the good ones really taken?
| Wed, 11-16-2005 - 4:48pm |
I'm at a loss at this point of my life when it comes to men after coming into contact with too many jerks in the last couple of years. I want someone who is in decent shape, intelligent, funny and somewhat charming. A friend of mine told me that I have to give up on that and settle for a geek who is boring. My experience has been that all the "hot," in shape, funny and exciting/mentally-stimulating men (with the exception of one) I've dated were complete jerks for the most part and the nice, relationship-type men were somewhat boring, not funny and out of shape. But I just can't seem to fall for the latter type. I'm in great shape, pass for someone five years younger, beautiful, intelligent and funny from what I've been told so why should I lower my standards? Then again, I don't want to hold out for something that I may never come across. Can anyone shed some light on the issue? We are both in our 20's and she's also slowly convincing me to stop dating men in their 20's to get fewer jerks though I'm not sure if that will help matters either. What do you all think?

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No...in your 20s, the good ones are definitely NOT all taken! The pool does get smaller the older you get, but it's never completely empty ;-).
There are hot guys who are funny, in shape, exciting AND nice. They are not as common, but they do exist. Don't you have female friends who are in relationships and/or married to some of them? Or male friends who are that way?
Sheri
I'm 25, and I'm hoping the good ones aren't taken! I think part of my problem is also that I look younger than what I am. Most people who don't know me don't think I'm older than 18. Which I know I will appreciate when I'm older, but not so much right now! I end up getting hit on by the young ones. Sigh...it's always some issue or another.
Veena :-)
I'm conviced that the reason why so many women say all the good men are taken and so many men say all the good women are taken is because we aren't using the same definitions.
A man's idea of what a "good man" might be is probably different from what a woman's definition of a "good man."
Hi there! I have to say that I sometimes feel your pain. I'm 28 as well and most of the time I'm just fine with what I've encountered in the dating world the past few years... not so much because I've just met fantastic, interesting men, but more because I've started to finally see all of the dates/relationships that didn't work out as stepping stones to something better. But there are definitely times when I wonder 'are all the good ones really taken?'.
I believe you said that you only date guys in their mid-twenties... I have actually decided to go the other way. It's been my experience that many men in their mid-late twenties don't seem to be ready for a relationship. Not to say that they are bad guys... It just seems that the ones I've dated who claim to want a relationship... their actions didn't quite correspond with that. So now I have added that to my mental checklist: no uniforms, no sports-car drivers, no buff gym fanatics, no men under 30. :) However, I suppose we can conjure up all the checklists we want, but we can't predict the future. We may both be suprised. You may fall head-over-heels in love with a 40-year-old junk food fanatic who makes you laugh and I may end up with a 23 year-old corvette-driving weightlifter . Funny how those things happen.. Good luck and have fun finding out!
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