Are guys intimidated by beauty?

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Are guys intimidated by beauty?
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 3:37pm
I just don't understand it. EVERYONE tells me what a beautiful, sweet and fun person I am, and I just don't know why I'm not getting asked out. I've confided in a few people that no one has asked me out and they just cannot believe it. I don't want to sound full of myself, but I am a well put together package. Are men afraid to ask out women that are confident, independent and beautiful? Most men say this is what they want, but is it really? I'm so confused!
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 9:09am
Cute pic!
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Sat, 02-04-2006 - 9:53am

Thanks!

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 10:11am
I hate pics that make my face look fat!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 10:24am

Well, your face looks really thin in the pic you have up now!

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 10:29am
For me it's all about the angle, too.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 2:10pm

Cute blonde vs... I automatically assume that good looking women get a lot of attention and that I would be just one of many who are wanting to vie for that. I don't compete. I don't try to be the one who "wins" especially in social situations.

Looks are the initial attraction but I would like to see what is underneath. I find how easy I can talk with her, her openness, her friendliness, her energy/sparkle are the main attactions for me. I don't care how good looking the woman is, if she is stuck up or closed then that basically reinforces my prejudice about physically attractive women.

Mark

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 2:37pm

>>I automatically assume that good looking women get a lot of attention and that I would be just one of many who are wanting to vie for that.<<

That's unfortunate. I think it's best not to judge a book by its cover either way. Don't avoid good-looking women because you assume there's competition. As with the OP and many of the women on this board, that's not always a safe assumption. Maybe those women are waiting for a nice, genuine guy to come along!

I do think the spark and vibe someone gives off is the most important factor in initial attraction - so if a women is giving those off, talk to her! Don't write her off whether she does or does not fall into the gorgeous/beautiful/pretty category. Beautiful people (inside AND out) come in all kinds of packages.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 7:55am
You know something?i posted this while back got some hell for it BUT I will post it again,because it is what I see,what my friends,coworkers and what not see.many men are mostly interested in sex.And nothing else.Just because a man comes up to you and asks you out,it does NOT mean he is looking for a relationship.My friend was approached by a man at her gym ,he asked her to dinner..ok so he found her attractive to ask her out..well guess what?He was only trying to get her in bed,and never cared or loved any woman enough to want a real relationship...nice guy right?she did NOT stay with him of course..so don`t think because men are not coming up to you and asking you out,you have bad luck.Quite the opposite.I don`t want me approaching me in such a way.And many women are willing to jump in bed with random men,so why should men care for relationships anymore?
anyway just because you are out and about it does not mean men are going to go right up to you and ask you out.Not many people have this happen to them.Most people are introduced through friends,develop things at work,or what not.And can I ask what is wrong with being single anyway?why must ladies feel they need to have a man?it is not worth it if you are having bad luck..so don`t feel so bad about it.And yes,I do firmly believe men are mostly attracted to the women they can use and abuse easily.Women who have no self esteem and issues and well,plain and simple sluts.Men are NOT intiminated by pretty women.They just like to make things more complicated.
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 7:58am
why would you tell a woman to approach a guy?I think that is a man`s job to do so.Approaching men makes us women look desperate and men seem to think a nice smile is going to lead to sex that night.
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 8:02am

if she's a complete ding-bat, a nasty person, or a golddigger, good old Michelle won't get the second look. That's just the way it is. Guys can't see our personality.

yup..you are right....I am not the only one who thinks so.And yes,let men make all the moves.Never make things easy for them.I have guy friends,but that is just it..they are friends..it is ok to call up guy friends..they aer your friends because they don`t find you hot,point blank.LOL