Are guys intimidated by beauty?
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Are guys intimidated by beauty?
| Thu, 02-02-2006 - 3:37pm |
I just don't understand it. EVERYONE tells me what a beautiful, sweet and fun person I am, and I just don't know why I'm not getting asked out. I've confided in a few people that no one has asked me out and they just cannot believe it. I don't want to sound full of myself, but I am a well put together package. Are men afraid to ask out women that are confident, independent and beautiful? Most men say this is what they want, but is it really? I'm so confused!

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I think (in relation to the "not wanting to be socially competetive" comment) you are probably in the minority, unfortunately.
One of my guy friends recently said to me (about being with an attractive woman over someone who's 'average') that "we don't know why we do it; we just do. We're competetive with each other, although it doesn't necessarily mean that's how we feel."
So if they don't know why they do it, how much hope do us "average" women have in the scheme of things? We can have a great personality, a loving heart, a keen mind, a sharp sense of humor, be laid back and easy going, but here comes that little blonde - and THAT's what matters. He doesn't know WHY he does it - he just does.
A comment a guy said to me once stands out in my mind: I was talking about prom and how I got dumped by my date just days beforehand because he got a date with one of the cheerleaders. My guy friend said, and I quote: "Think about it from his point of view: he can go out with you, or a cheerleader. Who do you THINK he's going to pick?"
Enough said. And my mother always said that guys mature as they get older and that all doesn't matter anymore. I think that life alone with my cat sounds better and better all the time.
Edited 2/5/2006 8:03 pm ET by emdeesea
Not from my experience. From my experience, me and one of my friends can walk into a bar together. She is a dead ringer for Sarah Michelle Gellar and me, well, I'm me. She immediately has a guy hit on her, go up to the microphone and dedicate a song to her - "The most beautiful girl in the room," and so forth, and SHE has the nerve to complain about how she "can't meet anyone," meanwhile, NO ONE even looks in my direction.
Yeah, I know the grass is greener. But I just don't want to hear about how hard it is to be beautiful. I'd LOVE to experience it for once.
Hi tammarella,
I am not intimidated by beautiful women but there are two things that always come to mind when I meet them.
1) She is probably already dating someone.
2) Why would she want to date me when she can have any man she wants?
I find that No.1 is true about 98% of the time. I don't normally test No.2....
Depends on my mood and how courageous I feel, I strike up a conversation with a nice looking woman if there is eye contact or if she says something to someone else I can relate to. I approach all contact with the attitude of being friendly and not being attached to the outcome. I look to make a nice connection and if it goes further then fine, if not then I appreciate the moment. I do usually make a prejudgment that the more physically attractive the woman is, the less available she is. However I still look to making a momentary connection.. if nothing else it would be good practice for me *grin*
Mark
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