Are we going about it all wrong?
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| Tue, 05-20-2008 - 5:22pm |
I was watching "60 Minutes" the other evening and they had a story about a mountain rainforest in Indonesia which has barely changed in the last 10,000 years. There were several species of birds that had yet to be discovered.
ANYWAY, one part of the story was how the male birds go about attracting the females. And I got to thinking how different it seems with humans.
With these birds, the males build up nests, they prance around, and so forth. And the females casually stroll by and decide whether or not they're interested. In other words, the male bird is the one doing the work while the females get to choose.
And here WE are - the females are the ones who seem to have to do everything while the males sit back and take THEIR pick.
My BF disagrees. (Of course he does).
Maybe we women as a whole should start to act like the birds I saw in this show. Let the guys start doing everything and we just go about our business. :)

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Edited 5/20/2008 11:08 pm ET by hillaryh8er
I know guys think they have it so hard when it comes to attracting women, but I agree with you.
Yeah I knew (and had even mentioned) in my previous post about how I wasn't the least bit interested in hearing from the "Right-Wingers." I should have left it in.
I am well-educated and wouldn't have it any other way. I would not want any man having to do anything for me. I can earn my own money, thanks guys.
What I DO NOT want is to prance around, pretending to be a dumb female to get your attention. Give me a break. I can take care of myself, thank you very much.
I am not interested in political posts. Thanks.
Maybe that's the difference. We can build our own nests and don't don't have to wait for some dumb bird to do it for us.
My apologies. I answered my own question.
Gal_mel77,
I definitely do think we have it all wrong. Women in westernised countries like Australia, UK and the US make it too easy for men. Women in more conservative countries like France, Greece and Italy make their men work hard for them. At the same time, what happened to men wanting a challenge? Men in Australia seem to prefer doormats. There are so many men here who think they are laid back and easy going but only because they have women accomodating to their every need. If you have an ounce of self respect or an opinion of your own, then you are classed high maintainence or difficult. So be it ... I'd rather be single and build my own nest. If I lived in a European country, I would have men chasing after me and they would know the value of my worth. It's very frustrating. If I could find a job overseas, I'd move in a minute.
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I'm going to assume you weren't directing that toward me, but toward someone else.
Yeah, my apologies - that post was not intended to be posted towards you. It was late (shrug). :)
Anyway, yeah - the other poster mentioned Europe. My BF said the same thing - Europe is much different in this aspect. Maybe I should go overseas after I finish university. :)
I sometimes think that men WANT us to need them. I get so frustrated with that. I have never needed to be "taken care of" - but I would love to have a companion and partner in life. I just can't seem to find the guy who doesn't have a hero complex.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Seriously, sometimes I am just amazed at the choices that some men make when choosing a partner. Saddened also that egos are so fragile that they need that emotional crutch. Makes you wonder just how emotionally healthy these guys are that a "dumb" and/or "helpless"
Tallgirlcolo,
I agree that a lot of men like women who are needy. They are turned off by women who are strong and independent. I think the problem is that we have all these great qualities but we don't have the men to match us and hence we either settle or we stay single. I dated a guy who once said that if you weren't married by 30, you were a loser. Mind you, when he said this, he was 22 and divorced with a child. He actually asked me to say that I needed him but the truth was that I didn't. He was very verbally abusive and although he asked me several times to marry him,
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