Are you a good judge of your dates?

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Are you a good judge of your dates?
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 8:19am
Last night, Dateline had a special about dating. They followed four single people on their dates, aquired by different methods, and then asked the public to vote online and tell who we thought would make a match. Turns out, only one of the guys really made a match, the first couple was a no, and the other two were just maybes. The public only got two of them right.

Do you think you're a good judge of how your dates are going? Have you ever had a date that you thought went really well, only to find out that he didn't think so? Do you have any idea what went wrong?

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 9:16am
I'm pretty much clueless about how things are going. Sometimes I think it's going well, only to find out I was wrong. I went out with one guy I met online and we went to dinner, had a great conversation, and he gave me quite the goodbye kiss. I never heard from him again. I sure read that one wrong.
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 3:48pm
What do they say...you know within the first 5 min if you are attracted? LOL.

I think I am a great judge of the MAN I meet at a date. Whether its a "match" or not - I try NOT to judge. I try to relax and have a good time. Only time can really tell whether our values, beliefs, etc match up...

Go.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 3:01pm
I think I am a good judge of values, character, integrity, intelligence, compassion and sense of humor on a very early date - usually the first or second. I have been on dates that I thought went well but the man didn't call so I guess he didn't think so - and I have been on dates where I made it abundantly clear I was not interested - and he called. Most of the men I date are in the corporate world - as am I - so my guess is that on a first date what I may view as interest is just them being polished and polite and personable as they would in a business meeting. I go into that same mode when I am out with a nice person I am not attracted to. I am friendly, I make eye contact, but definitely not flirtatious. Also, I don't like to burn bridges so if I am out with someone whose path I might cross again socially or in business I behave well.