Are you looking for your father?

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Are you looking for your father?
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Thu, 09-07-2006 - 7:25pm

Do you think that the person you want to end up with is like your father in any way?

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Registered: 10-30-2005
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 1:18pm

funny - that just popped up in my mind yesterday!

in some ways, i find that the man i'm dating is very different from my father - his expressiveness, for example, is something i think i wish my father had had. my guy is a father himself, so i get to see how he is as a parent, and of course that makes me think of my own father a lot.

and it also brings out a lot of hidden similarities - things i hardly remembered about my dad, but that my bf reminds me of. they're so little, like a certain thing he does when he drives, or talks, or a little habit. in a way, i feel like it brings me a little bit closer to both of them.

when i was little, i swore to myself more than a few times that i would never marry anyone like my father, and though i wouldn't want someone exactly the same, i am discovering more qualities of him that i do love, some that i used to dislike even, and that i would cherish in a man. it's interesting.