Ask him out?

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Registered: 10-14-2006
Ask him out?
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 7:39pm

How can I be sure if a guy likes me (I know this is asked ALOT, but...)

I have a crush on a guy and I think he may be interested, but I'm not sure if he is or if he's just friendly. I ran into him over labor day at an outdoor festival. I heard someone yell my name across the park...it was him. He was actually standing with a friend of mine. Later, we passed each other going to and from the band shell. He squeezed my elbow and asked if the band was on. At the bandshell, he came up to me and talked a bit about the act on stage. That following workday, i had to send a work related email (it was a mass email, he was included in the group). He responded and tacked on a "PS it was good to see you yesterday."

Just saw him the other day for the first time since the holiday for a volunteer event. He overheard me telling someone I was set up on a blind date. He turned around and, instead of making fun of me like everyone else, he told me how to cut the date short. He did laugh a bit about it saying "at least you got to see the guy" (I saw a pic of the blind date) but he told me to meet for drinks and call it an early night. Other guy friends say this is a sign of interest. Is it? he was loud and boisterous in telling me what to do...much louder than he usually talks (there were other people around, but he didn't need to be so demonstrative).

I am willing to make the first move (as many who know him are telling me I'll have to be the one to make that move) but I just want more to go on. Any thoughts?

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Registered: 10-08-2006
In reply to: niteowl2006
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 8:43am
You are really in no hurry here to do anything rash. You work with him and have mutuals friends so I would sit back and look for a few more signs. He does sound interested but its pretty close to home if he were to turn you down. You could arrange to have a small party in your house and invite your friend, him and a few others. Why do you feel you need to ask him?
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: niteowl2006
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 1:00pm

Nope. Bide your time.

Make sure to chat with him and flirt a bit so he might have the confidence to ask you out, but wait for him to do it. You can also do as the previous poster suggested and just make sure you have opportunities to see him in a group setting. IMO, the relationship stands a much better chance when the guy realizes that he has to make a bit of an effort to date you - and him asking you out is the first step.

AJ, enjoying life with C.