asking out a coworker

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asking out a coworker
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Sat, 09-16-2006 - 9:26am

We've got a new girl at work. She and I seem to get along pretty well, when she leaves at night she passes by my dept., gives a little wave, smile and says "goodnight". She's pretty cute, nice, funny and I like her nerdy glasses too ;-)

I have very good reason to believe that there is no boyfriend in the picture. She's never mentioned one. She just had her birthday and the only celebrating she was going to do was have dinner with her parents. So I think I should make a move and ask her to dinner.

What is the best way to try to get her alone to ask her to dinner? I'm thinking that I should probably try to catch her alone in the breakroom sometime. She's got to pass my department to get there w/her lunch, so that might be a good opportunity to snag her ;-)

Anyone think I'm on the right track? Any other suggestions? I want to be careful and very informal about the whole things since she's a coworker.

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 9:56am
Personally, I wouldn't want to date someone I work with. If things didn't go well, you'd still have to see that person every day, etc. However, I know some people that met at work and have a great relationship...I would keep it casual, see if she wants to grab a coffee or something, or maybe you can get a group of coworkers to go out for a night and she can come along too, that way, you can get to know her on a more social level before you make your move. Just my opinion.
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Sat, 09-16-2006 - 2:58pm
I would say to go for it - why not?
I have been dating a co-worker for many months, and am very happy. We are in diff. departments with diff. schedules, so that may help us avoid the pitfalls that may sometimes come along with dating in the workplace. Our romance sprung through inter-office email - he asked me some questions about what exactly I do in my job, which I found rather flattering, as most people don't care :) Then he got my number, and the rest is history.
I don't think work is a bad place at all to find dating material - it gives you probably a few things in common right off the bat, and it makes complaining about work a whole lot easier!
Good luck!
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 4:59pm
I agree.
Go for it. Ask her what she's doing for lunch sometime and if maybe she'd like to join you.
I see nothing wrong with showing interest in a co-worker. I've known plenty of people who met at work and fell in love and even got married.
I don't think it's right not to consider dating someone just because they work at the same company. I understand the arguments as they are valid ones, however, we spend most of our time at work and we are bound to meet someone interesting.
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Sat, 09-16-2006 - 8:06pm

Yeah, I was going to try to snag her Friday before I left, but things were a little busy and I was in a rush to get to my cousins soccer game so I didn't get the chance to snag her before I left. Drats!!!!! And I'm off Monday so I won't get the chance to chicken out again until Tuesday - lol.

Maybe I need someone to send me a stern email telling me not to leave the building Tuesday until I've asked her out ;-)

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Sun, 09-17-2006 - 3:53am
well, one good thing about working together is that you have plenty of chances to ask her out or chicken out! she'll keep coming back every day :)
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Sun, 09-17-2006 - 11:02am
I just sent her an email. I didn't ask her out in the email, it's work related. She asked me about something last week and I thought of some more info I could give her. After all, it couldn't hurt for me to show extra concern about her work ;-)
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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 1:00pm
good for you :)
let us know if/when you do ask her out!
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 7:46pm

Well....

I told her I was thinking of going to a certain restaurant/bar after work tomorrow (Friday) night and asked if she'd like to go.

She (still looking at her computer screen) said: "Ummmmmmmmm.....long pause......I don't know if I'll be here tomorrow afternoon"

So, she said "no"

Oh well :-)

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 7:57am
She didn't offer an alternative?
If not, I'd say you gave it your best shot and move on.
Next!
Don't feel bad. Surely there will be others. Keep trying.
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 7:59am
No, there wasn't even eye contact, let alone an alternative dinner plan :-)
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