Asking for your opinion

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Asking for your opinion
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 2:14am
Im writing a research paper and I need some input, anything will be greatly appreciative...

"Are married people happier than single people?"

Thank-you


Edited 4/16/2003 10:18:00 PM ET by sandra121181

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 2:26am
That depends...

are the married people *happily* or *unhappily*

married? and are the single *wanting* to be single

and *happy*? or are they *unhappy*? lol

i don't think you can make a generalization at all

and say "all married ppl are happy/unhappy" or "all

single ppl are happiest/unhappiest"

it all depends on the individuals.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 8:10am
I read somewhere once that married men are the happiest and married women are the least happy. Single men and women were in the middle, but I don't remember in what order. I'm not sure how many people were surveyed or how they did the research, though.

I don't think you can really generalize, though. People are happy when they have what they want. I want to be married, and although I am generally happy, I will be happier when I have achieved that goal. To me it's just like getting my masters degree. I want it, therefore I shall have it!

Since you're writing a paper, I must become a teacher now and tell you that "more happier" is redundant. Just say "happier".

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 9:51am
hasn't this research already been done?

answer:

happiest are happily married men

2nd happiest: happily married women

3rd happiest unmarried women

4th happiest unhappily married men

5th happiest unhappily married women

6th happiest unmarried men

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 10:49am
"More happier" - for a research paper?? That's interesting. I think there are stats that married men live longer. I don't think you can answer that question - there are too many variables - I would be happier if I were married and had a child, I think. But that's just me! Good luck!
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 11:49pm
Nuh-uh! I've known a lot of miserable married people . . . come to think of it, I've known a lot of miserable single people, too. I guess it's all in how you choose to live your life. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice. (A brilliant feminist taught me that.)

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Registered: 04-13-2003
Thu, 04-17-2003 - 12:06am
Hi Sandra121181,

Well cant speak for married people but as a single guy I feel quite content/happy at being single, when I was in a exclusive r/ship I was content/happy...for me its all relative. I'm single & happy and not lonely & unhappy due to having friends, family and a career, to which the question you posed means to me "are married people happier due to potential or exclusive sexual fulfillment"...am I happy being single? yes! Would I be happy married? yes! if thats what a woman and I both wanted. I guess to find out the true answer you would have to qualitatively and quantatively question every person on the earth because even if you went with a sample groups findings, you would still have some one stating something contradictory to your findings. On a lighter note, I guess you could narrow it down to maybe "married people of 5yrs, American, addiction free, no children, one pet, both working, one-two cars, one house, managable debt, urban living" compared to "single people of 5yrs, American, addicted to chocolate, 10 children, 3 rhinos, not working, two houses, a bicycle, some debt, rural living" I know what I'd prefer! ;)
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-17-2003 - 9:28am
I don't think you can generalize the two. I think it totally depends on the person. For example, right now in my life, I am happy being single, and know I wouldn't be happy being married, whereas I have friends my age who are very unhappy being single, and think they would be much happier being married.

Victoria

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 04-17-2003 - 9:44am
I was married for two years to my senior year in high school sweetheart, we divorced after two years because he cheated on me. I was happy when I was married and couldn't imagine my life being single, I thought that was what God had planned for me a married woman with children. After my separation and divorce, I finally "found" myself. I learned a lot about me that I never would have when I was married. Yes, it depends on the person, but for me, even though I am a single mother, being single is the best. I have no one to answer to if I want to buy a pair of $50 jeans...except my son. But, that's different. Good luck on your paper!
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Thu, 04-17-2003 - 11:48am
I think the key is whether you're happy with yourself. If you're happy with yourself then you can be happy in your situation, married or single. For women, being single is particularly tough when you get to that age bracket when everyone expects you to settle down. For example, a single 30 year old woman looking at her married counterpart walking down the street may think the couterpart is happier than she is. The grass is always greener.
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Thu, 04-17-2003 - 2:16pm
I completely agree with the "grass is always greener theory". On the one side, you have your singles, who are known to be victims of the impeding dateless weekend syndrome (yes, I have been a sufferer for quite some time now!!) But then on the other hand, I know many women who would rather be in a dentist chair having a root canal with no anesthetic then go home to what awaits them, a husband they don't even know/can't stand. Why, might I ask, does society put so much pressure on women to be married by a certain age? As if there wasn't enough pressure on us already to be skinny, waxed, manicured,groomed, perfect in all ways.... And men wonder why we are the more emotional of the sexes??? Well now I am going off on tangents, so I'll suffice it to say that I truly believe it all depends on the individuals preference. Some people become too bored, too easily, to settle down with one person for the rest of their lives. Others crave the stability and companionship that a healthy marriage will provide. Happiness is where you choose to find it.