Attraction?

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Attraction?
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 5:10am

If I knew someone wasnt attracted to me physically I would not date them.

Does anyone else agree with me or am I just out of touch with everyone again?

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: antisexy
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 8:02am
I would not date anyone who was not attracted to me and I would not date anyone that I am not attracted to either which is probably why I remain single because I'm not attracted to alot. LOL!
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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 10:10am

I would not date anyone who was not attracted to my physically either. There has to be some type of physical connection/attraction in the beginning along with a mental connection. Otherwise, it is just a friendship.

What I don't get is when somebody thinks you are hot and have a great friendship, but still does not want to date you.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: antisexy
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 10:23am

I think that finding someone attractive and being attracted to them are different things.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Mon, 06-26-2006 - 10:41am
I agree. I think we're just using different words to describe that..
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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: antisexy
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 8:18am
Well, I know I wouldn't want to date someone I was not physically attracted to...as for dating someone who was not physically attracted to me, well, I can't imagine why they'd date me if they didn't find me physically attractive....so I'm guessing that you're assuming the person's not attracted to you because we know you don't think you're attractive.
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Registered: 04-13-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 12:14pm
I am not dating anyone right now. It was just a question I was thinking about.
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Registered: 04-13-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 2:43am
I guess the main thing that made this question come up is that I know a girl who has a boyfriend that she has dated for a little over a year and she says she loves him and everything but then I hear her talk about how hot some guy is when her boyfriend isnt around....I have heard plenty of these kinds of things from girls who are in relationships and I think to myself...if you like that guy so much why are you in a relationship? It seems I see people in relationships who are attracted to other people but not their partner and it makes me wonder.
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Registered: 03-01-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 5:10am

You dont suddenly stop fancying attractive people just because you are in a relationship. I adore my boyfriend and think he is gorgeous but I can still recognise a good looking man. And I know he still notices good looking women, its no way saying I would prefer to be with them.

You seem determined to always think the worst about yourself and other people. With that attitude, you will never change and be happy. You need to help yourself before you expect things to improve. If you keep thinking negatively about literally everything, you will stay miserable.