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| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 6:41pm |
Hi there... although i've been reading these boards for awhile this is my first post.
I am 30 years old, gainfully employed, well educated, have wonderful family and friends, and naturally STILL SINGLE. Anyways, this past weekend I found out that five of my good friends are all pregnant. I'm truly happy for all of them but i'd be lying if I said that it doesn't make me sad. My biggest fear is that I'll end up alone.. being everyone's favorite "auntie" but never having a child (and husband) of my own.
Does anyone else feel this way? I know I'm probably being overly dramatic but it just seems like the whole world is pregnant right now and I can barely get a date! I'm just not sure how I'm going to get thru the next 9 months of constant discussion about maternity clothes and baby registries. Any advice on how to keep on a happy face when deep down I'm panicked that I'll never be part of the mommy club?
I can't talk to my married friends about this because they just don't understand. They mean well but there's just no way they can relate.
I am 30 years old, gainfully employed, well educated, have wonderful family and friends, and naturally STILL SINGLE. Anyways, this past weekend I found out that five of my good friends are all pregnant. I'm truly happy for all of them but i'd be lying if I said that it doesn't make me sad. My biggest fear is that I'll end up alone.. being everyone's favorite "auntie" but never having a child (and husband) of my own.
Does anyone else feel this way? I know I'm probably being overly dramatic but it just seems like the whole world is pregnant right now and I can barely get a date! I'm just not sure how I'm going to get thru the next 9 months of constant discussion about maternity clothes and baby registries. Any advice on how to keep on a happy face when deep down I'm panicked that I'll never be part of the mommy club?
I can't talk to my married friends about this because they just don't understand. They mean well but there's just no way they can relate.

I think the last time I was surrounded by pregnancy, I very obviously and very loudly changed the subject a few times when I was really sick of it.
Having many of your friends pregnant at once is difficult I'm sure! It's like when all your friends are getting married and you're showing up to the weddings by yourself. It can get soooo depressing.
Maybe change your perspective a little though...
You're going to have such a great support system when you're pregnant. You'll have so many people to reference in the middle of the night when something doesn't feel just right or you're crying all the time and feel like such a baby! There will be these understanding shoulders and voices of wisdom.
I know it may only be a small consolation to what you're feeling now but if you can put a positive spin on things it will help!
Though none of my friends are pregnant, I think I can still relate to your fear that you wil end up alone and without a family. I'm 28, only 3 months shy of 29 and only casually dating. I think I will end up as the wannabe cool aunt (my 17 year old neice acts like she can't stand me) with no family of my on and it does bother me a lot.
I honestly am not good at acting happy particularly when I'm miserable, so I wish I had advice but I don't.
Just letting you know I relate and it sucks!
I definitely feel this way. My two sisters are moms. My best friend just had twins. My other best friend is going through fertility treatments and will probably (hopefully) be preggers soon. I do feel like I was never issued my mommy club card - heck, I'd settle for the happily married club card.
My advice for making it through is to keep in touch with your friends. Show interest in their kids. Schedule lunches with them to give them non-mommy time (they need it). Mostly, grin and bear it. If they are good friends, they will hopefully return the favor for you when it's your turn.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Hey, cl, is your birthday in February, too?
You got me. My birthday is actually 2-14.
I'm also luckly that nearly everyone in my world is single and not seriously involved so I never have to dealwith weddings, engagements, baby showers and the like. But I'm sure that will one day change and I hope when it does, I'll have learned to be less bitter.