back in the dating scene slowly...

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Registered: 09-29-2005
back in the dating scene slowly...
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:35pm

I am re emerging into the dating scene ever so slowly..

My ex and I split in Sept. We were together 3.5 years. In Dec. I became re aquainted with a casual aquaintance. He asked me on a date. We have spent a few hours a week either riding on his motorcycle or having tea at my house. He sends me romantic texts (hello sweetie and kisses goodnite stuff) and hugs me each time he sees me. He also kisses me hello (closed mouth pecks) and goodbye. He has not made any other advances nor have we chatted about "us". He knows about my ex and knows I am struggling a little based on one issue he was privy to, otherwise I keep my personal stuff private. We basically have light chit chat..

I like him as a casual platonic friend..nothing more. I do not feel any chemistry but I do enjoy his company.

I am traveling for 3 weeks soon so will not see him but I wonder what to do..I think he is ga ga but there is no talk about anything..

What should I do if anything? I like his friendship...and his company just the way it is...

For reference, I still love and miss my ex but will not go back to him ..it's over..and I need time to heal. Hence why this friendship is nice for now..no rebound..no romance..just nice..but..

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 5:21pm

I would be honest with him, tell him that you truly enjoy his friendship and you're not looking for anything further at this point. I have a couple of guys that I'm acquaintances with, and I am not attracted to them in a romantic/physical way, but they're nice people, but they have expressed an interest in me, so it's difficult. I just told them I'm not looking to date anyone right now (although I am, I don't have it in my heart to say "I like you, I just don't like you like you" ).

Matters of the heart, they're so touchy sometimes!

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 5:38pm

Thanks Rebecca..I actually asked him out for a drink so initiated this and later found out he has been attracted to me for a long time. Sigh..It's so strange because I am such a communicator and in all relationships, be it friend or lover, I am very expressive but this one is strange..we have very basic simple chat..and actually it's kind of nice since I am not ready for love...

Happy New Year...