back out in the dating world :-(

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Registered: 01-21-2006
back out in the dating world :-(
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Sat, 07-01-2006 - 4:07pm

UGH.... that's first of all...

let me just start by saying, I'm back in the dating world after moving out of my ex's about a month and a half or so ago and immediately met someone at work... we clicked, but I thought it must be too soon. Anyway, I went against that idea and started dating him..

This might sound silly, but I am really pissed off.. we were having 'fun' last night and he broke my really expensive ipex bra from victoria secret after multiple warnings from me to not do so (he's really strong).... so this morning, I told him he needs to get me a new one. Well, he said he wasn't going to and he didn't want to hear me complain about it! He finally, after an hour of me badgering him said he'd pay for it but at that point I was so pissed, i Just left his apartment....

Am I being overdramatic?

thanks!
Iris

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Registered: 08-13-2004
Sat, 07-01-2006 - 6:35pm
I think this is really ugly, he should have offered to pay for it without you even asking. You should probably get rid of him. This incident just shows what kind of person he is.
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Registered: 07-02-2006
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:01pm
Hmm, "multiple warnings"....makes me think he is not taking you seriously. Is this the kind of man you want in your life? You're not being too dramatic, but the underlying problem may be one of lacking mutual respect. Some might say that you could have told him the price of the bra in your warnings. Some men are stupid and have no clue about the price of things, and then again, if you have only known him for one month, he may not have a clue as to how you like to spend/save your money. Perhaps spend some time doing other activities that will clue him in on some of these life facts and/or things that will clue you in to whether he does respect you or not. good luck.
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Registered: 01-21-2006
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 12:37am

Thankyou for your responses!

I decided I'll just have to feel him out a little more, maybe go on some more dates and see how he interacts with me. I know noone is perfect, but I definitly require respect! I guess time will tell if it is a one-time incident or a personality trait.

I'm not sure I'm glad to be dating again...haha..

:)
Iris

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Registered: 04-03-2006
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 9:13am
Hmm. Seems he didn't respect your wishes in the first place then didn't care about your feelings afterward.