Back out there again

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Back out there again
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:05pm

Well, I just broke it off with a guy I've been dating for a few weeks. He was a really great guy, but there was just something missing. I wasn't as in to him as he was in to me, and that's not fair to him. Now I feel like one of those guys who we all complain about that just 'seem' to 'change their mind' after a while. But, I gave him a fair chance, and it just didn't work.

Anyway, that means I'm back to having little to no life again :P It was nice having plans on the weekend, but that's not enough of a reason to stay with someone obviously. I think I'm done with 'looking' for men for now...if one comes along, then great, but I'm not going to start the online thing again...I haven't had too much luck with that recently, and I should focus on making some friends here!

Alyssa

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 12:05am
That's kind of where I'm at- albeit i haven't dated since i got out of my long-term relationship (about 2 months ago). But I was starting to look for a guy, and had certain guys I was interested in (one in particular), but I've been realizing that what I really enjoy right now is my friends and making new ones! I'm starting to get a good social circle going and slowly make some friends in this town and I think that's just what I need now.
So, if a guy does come into my life, great! But I'm going to try to stop looking and hope that age-old saying of "good things happen when you least expect them to" happens to me :)
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Registered: 05-22-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:19pm

That's how I'm thinking right now, too. I am ready to meet someone new since getting out of my relationship a couple months ago. But in the meantime I just want to enjoy what I have going for me right now, and hopefully "the one" will come into my life!

I agree, it isn't fair to the guy to continue the relationship if you're not into it as much as he is. I was in that situation, and eventually I realized I had to end it to be fair to both of us. It was tough for a while, but I'm glad I did.

Veena :-)