Oh, Shy, I'm sorry. It's never easy to have a relationship end, and it sucks to be broken up with even if you were thinking of ending it, as illogical as that is. But emotions aren't logical so there you go.
You will be ok of course but I know that doesn't make it any easier.
Aww, sweetie, I'm sorry you're hurting. Break ups suck no matter what the circumstances. Being independent is wonderful, but I totally know what you mean about WANTING a relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Honestly, I'm sure you know all the stuff most people say to "make you feel better" and I know full well that it usually just doesn't cut it. So I'll just say you are surely not alone in feeling the way you do and it's his loss. Many hugs...hope you get to the other side and feel better soon.
I'm sorry. It sucks to have something like that take you by surprise. Ugh. If only you were closer. I'd take you out for a beer . . . or shots!
Something just occurred to me. It would be kind of neat if we all did live closer. We could try setting each other up with our single friends. Too bad we don't.
At least you were contemplating doing the same thing. It may not, but I hope that gives you at least a little bit of comfort.
Oh geeze I'm so sorry. What a jerk. And like you said, a wuss. Over the phone is such a cop-out.
>I'm convinced that although men say that's what they want, it really isn't...I've come to the conclusion that I just need to be bitchier.<
Unfortunately I think you may be correct in that. Because all the women I see who are in long-term relationships with men who truly adore them are real pieces of work, if you know what I mean. Maybe we should all just stop trying to be understanding and logical and just be complete *itches.
Again, I'm sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you.
I have no words for you because all breakup speeches are lamo and corny. Except I was really rooting for you Shy and I'm sorry for you that it didnt work out. I hope you feel better soon.
No need to become bitchy...those women get the misery they sow anyway.
ITA with this statement because it's very TRUE! It happened to me with a guy! It was too late for him! :-)
To cl-shywon, sorry to hear about your break up.{{{HUGS}} But remember, when one door closes, another one opens. Who knows, maybe he just wasn't the right one. Maybe he'll wake up and realize what he lost when he gets out there. He'll probably try to crawl back into your life. Maybe by then, it will probably be too late!
Well, if he does, actually try to crawl back, don't take him back!!!! That's never a good sign when they do that. Usually it means, something didn't work out with someone so they think that you have nothing better to do but sit around and wait on them.
I've had lots of exes do that. I was foolish to take one back only for him to break up with me again. That's how I know what I'm talking about!
Come on, why are you a failure??? You were thinking of breaking up with him for weeks, you knew it wasn't working and so didn't he so why all of a sudden are you some big failure??? Come on don't do that to yourself. Recognize that you both realized that this relationship wasn't working and you both were working towards doing the right thing and not dragging it out much longer he just got there quicker than you.
I do have the same thoughts as you do often about the "independence" thing. I often say that too. Men say they want women who are together. I mean I don't make a lot of money, I'm no doctor or anything, but I have an apartment, I have a car, I work a fulltime job, and a parttime one and I support myself and I am independent and yet that seems to not be what men want, they seem to be attracted to women that in some way have drama surrounding them or they need saving. I don't get it at all.
Hang in there. You know this is for the best, you yourself came to that conclusion you said yourself a few weeks ago.
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Oh, Shy, I'm sorry. It's never easy to have a relationship end, and it sucks to be broken up with even if you were thinking of ending it, as illogical as that is. But emotions aren't logical so there you go.
You will be ok of course but I know that doesn't make it any easier.
Sheri
Aww, sweetie, I'm sorry you're hurting. Break ups suck no matter what the circumstances. Being independent is wonderful, but I totally know what you mean about WANTING a relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Honestly, I'm sure you know all the stuff most people say to "make you feel better" and I know full well that it usually just doesn't cut it. So I'll just say you are surely not alone in feeling the way you do and it's his loss. Many hugs...hope you get to the other side and feel better soon.
Michelle
I'm sorry. It sucks to have something like that take you by surprise. Ugh. If only you were closer. I'd take you out for a beer . . . or shots!
Something just occurred to me. It would be kind of neat if we all did live closer. We could try setting each other up with our single friends. Too bad we don't.
At least you were contemplating doing the same thing. It may not, but I hope that gives you at least a little bit of comfort.
Hugs.
Oh geeze I'm so sorry. What a jerk. And like you said, a wuss. Over the phone is such a cop-out.
>I'm convinced that although men say that's what they want, it really isn't...I've come to the conclusion that I just need to be bitchier.<
Unfortunately I think you may be correct in that. Because all the women I see who are in long-term relationships with men who truly adore them are real pieces of work, if you know what I mean. Maybe we should all just stop trying to be understanding and logical and just be complete *itches.
Again, I'm sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you.
I have no words for you because all breakup speeches are lamo and corny. Except I was really rooting for you Shy and I'm sorry for you that it didnt work out. I hope you feel better soon.
No need to become bitchy...those women get the misery they sow anyway.
((((SHY))))
Ruby
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ITA with this statement because it's very TRUE! It happened to me with a guy! It was too late for him! :-)
To cl-shywon, sorry to hear about your break up.{{{HUGS}} But remember, when one door closes, another one opens. Who knows, maybe he just wasn't the right one. Maybe he'll wake up and realize what he lost when he gets out there. He'll probably try to crawl back into your life. Maybe by then, it will probably be too late!
As much as I'd love for him to "crawl back" because then I wouldn't feel so crappy right now, it's a horrible thing to do.
Well, if he does, actually try to crawl back, don't take him back!!!! That's never a good sign when they do that. Usually it means, something didn't work out with someone so they think that you have nothing better to do but sit around and wait on them.
I've had lots of exes do that. I was foolish to take one back only for him to break up with me again. That's how I know what I'm talking about!
Come on, why are you a failure??? You were thinking of breaking up with him for weeks, you knew it wasn't working and so didn't he so why all of a sudden are you some big failure??? Come on don't do that to yourself. Recognize that you both realized that this relationship wasn't working and you both were working towards doing the right thing and not dragging it out much longer he just got there quicker than you.
I do have the same thoughts as you do often about the "independence" thing. I often say that too. Men say they want women who are together. I mean I don't make a lot of money, I'm no doctor or anything, but I have an apartment, I have a car, I work a fulltime job, and a parttime one and I support myself and I am independent and yet that seems to not be what men want, they seem to be attracted to women that in some way have drama surrounding them or they need saving. I don't get it at all.
Hang in there. You know this is for the best, you yourself came to that conclusion you said yourself a few weeks ago.
Smile,
Deirdre
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