Back to Square One

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Back to Square One
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Thu, 01-25-2007 - 11:30pm

It feels like I am back to square one, where I was a year ago when I was asking every one how to be more sexy, how to be more confident. Although you guys were telling me all the right things, they never "hit home" until I figured them out on my own. Last night while I was surfing the internet, looking for articles on developing sexual confidence, I came across a piece in which the authur wrote, "Our sexuality is a continuum of self-disclosure of who we are as females or males. It concerns how we feel about ourselves as well as our sexual beliefs and behaviour, our values and emotions, where and how we focus, express and use our in-born God-given raw sexual energy."

The best thing for me to do, I think, is to express myself unabashedly. However, on the other hand, does it feel like a big transition from expressing yourself -- talking about your likes and dislikes, dreams, emotions, and so on -- to expressing you "raw sexual energy"? Perhaps when you are feeling so good about yourself, you cannot help but to offer yourself to others. Am I understanding this correctly?

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In reply to: akt226
Thu, 01-25-2007 - 11:39pm
Sexual discussions should always, in my opinion, be initiated by the female. You wouldn't want to scare some poor girl off, right? I personally do not think that sex should be discussed until after the third or fourth date. It shouldn't be discussed until it is apparent that the two of you are ready to know each other in the biblical sense, you dig? Have you been practicing akt? You can read and read until your brain aches but you won't get real knowledge, true wisdom, until you get out there.