Bad Love Karma

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Bad Love Karma
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Sun, 12-04-2011 - 2:47pm

Okay Everyone;

I am now thinking that bad love karma is coming back to bite me in the butt... Over my many years I have done things I am not too proud of in the love arena..so is it coming back to haunt me now?

My HS crush is mad at me for some unknown reason. He wont talk to me and has defriended me on facebook.. I have no idea where to find him at this point..

The love of my life from thirty years ago will not speak to me at all. I have tried to talk to him on fb and send him a birthday message last August and nothing, zero, nada.. He

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 10:54am

My 2nd DH thought that his only child was actually not his--he said he found something after his DW died--I don't know if it was a letter or what.

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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 9:55pm

To be brutally honest I dont know to this day who the father is.. Back then in 1980 there was no DNA... and actually there was no explaining.. I was pregnant and when I told my H he told me to get rid of it.. He was a very mean man.. I said no.. I will not as I was throwing up into the toilet bowl. I then told my lover (M) and he said dont you want to know? I said no.. i will keep this child and I dont care who he belongs to.. So nine months later my son was born and my 1st. Husbands name went on the birth certificate amd that was that.. My son looks like me and my family so no one ever knew anything.. and my first H went along with it all.

My Lover (M) came over to the apt. one day and looked into the crib and saw the baby.. He was like OMG. Now you can get a divorce and we can get married. I said no.. and that was the day we broke up for good or so I thought.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 9:25pm
I have to ask, Free...are you sure you were pregnant with your ex husband's child and not your lover's? I think that would be my biggest fear- there being a child produced that I couldn't explain.

I have a male friend who isn't happy with his wife. I'd date him if he were single, but I know he'll never leave so we're just friends and that's fine. Back when we first met about four years ago, he seemed to be single. He told my friend about a girl he'd just broken it off with. Anyway, after knowing him so long and putting two and two together, I think they were separated at the time. His daughter had just been born (I learned that later). A couple of years ago, he made a comment about her eye and hair color that led me to believe it raised a red flag for him. I've never asked, but I've always wondered if his daughter was actually the product of an affair his wife had and that's why they were separated.
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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 8:50pm

ha ha

Yes; its all written down in my brain and now its written down on this public message board but I have no regrets as I always have pushed that proverbial envelope.. why? I dont know.. ..

After the two years I broke it off with M . He was devastated and so was I.. He said he loved me and I loved him but it wasnt enough I guess. I was pregnant and M said to get a divorce and marry him. I said why would I get married again. He said cause we love each other.. I said I know but its not enough. So after I had my son I went back with my R (husband) but it all went down hill from t here. Oh; I remember one time when I was very huge and pregnant and M's exwife came to his house to drop something off. I went to hide in the shower because I was so big and I didnt want her to see me .. I stood in the shower while she and M talked in the kitchen. I will never forget that day.

Thanks for the memories

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 8:35pm

I agree w/ you--highly unlikely for a female virgin to have an orgasm on the wedding night unless 1) she has already been practicing on herself or 2) they have been doing everything up to intercourse.

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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 7:50pm
I do hope you've written all of this down somewhere!
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 1:45pm

what do I win? ha ha

It gets worse so dont worry .. thus the posting Bad Love Karma.. I know it is back to bite me in the butt thirty years later.

Oh; did I tell you this guy was only separated and lived alone but he had two very young kids.. and this affair went on for two years?? Eventually my 1st.H found out and kicked me out of the house. He actually packed my bags and put me in the car and drove me to my parents house.. funny thing? when I was at my parents I missed my H but that didnt stop the affair.

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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 1:34pm
Two words: You. Win. :P
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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 11:49am

ha ha

I think I watch some reality tv as sis is too cheap to get HBO and any movies. I told her I would give her 5.00 for it but she refuses. I l do love boardwalk empire so my ex H lets me watch it where he lives.. house we had together once.. can you say push the envelope?? (long story)


Anyway;; well? I have to say I had cheated on my first husband cause I couldnt stand him for a minute . I know it was wrong but I met one of his friends and he was hot hot hot.. So the friend invites me over to his house for breakfast (did I tell this story already?)So the friend calls the apt.and I say so you want to talk to R and he says No. I want to talk to you?? Uh oh!!!

So to make a long story short for now. friend invites me over for breakfast and some other things.. and we wound up in bed and it was hot hot hot.. .. So every morning when 1st. ex H went to work off I went to M's house for two hours of wild passionate sex. then I left for work and went home to hubby to cook dinner and all of that wifey stuff.

to be continued

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Wed, 12-07-2011 - 11:30am

I'm a reality TV whore!

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