Basically we all settle...

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Basically we all settle...
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 4:24pm

So... I was thinking the other day (I know I know - bad idea... thinking) after I watched a yummy man specimen run by our car as we were driving down the street - and my boyfriend turned to see me twisting my neck to watch as long as possible... OOPS!!!! :)

The guy running was Hot! Muscles, tanned, a big... well I don't know that! But obviously a guy that I could never get! I'm not nearly fit enough, blond enough or prone to alcohol (I guess I just assume those kind of guys like to go out and Par-tay!). So my boyfriend was like "you can NEVER say anything when I look at another girl" and I was alittle embarrassed that he caught me gawking because I hate it when he does it - but if BF had a body like that... I'd have no reason to look at other guys. and so it goes... if I had a body like some of the girls I know he gawks at... he'd have no reason to look at other girls (or that's the theory - but I'm not sure it would test positive).

So... my POINT... are we all just settling for the best we can get... looks wise? Like I'd LOVE to land me a Patrick Dempsey (okay I could probably get a Patrick Dempsey-type without the fame induced ego, oh who am I kidding! :p) - how about a Antonio Sabato Jr. or Matt Damon or Nick Lachey... oh my!!!! But I KNOW I could never get one of those guys... or even their less famous version! So... I stick with my own personal hottie BF (who I love for so much more than looks)... that by society's standards and average hottie-on-the-street standards... wouldn't really rank! :( And vice versa for my BF for me... I'm "as good as he can get"... or atleast we assume this. I have my Jennifer Aniston moments (when I get my hair highlighted) and that must be enough for him!?

But overall... isn't it fair to say we all have to settle for the best we can get!? ROTFLMAO

Okay that's enough of my random rambling for one day!

A side note: I searched for "sexiest men alive" and found this 2005 list... look at #10... do ANY of you ladies find him sexy? :p http://www.people.com/people/gallery/0,,1113899_1129983,00.html

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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 4:26pm

If we're talking purely about looks, eventually everyone's looks fade. I'd be surprised if Mr. Hot Bod looks that way in 20-30 years.

So, I say, better to find the man with the perfect heart over the man with the perfect bod. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 11:06pm

We do all settle in every aspect.

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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 11:10pm

Mmm, no, I am not familiar with number ten on the list. However, I can tell you that I am obsessed with Benicio Del Torro and at first glance, I wouldn't have given him a second thought, but I have seen his work and think he's a phenomenal actor as well as incredibly sexy(Actor's Studio interview sent me over the edge). My point, if I were familiar with this man's work, number ten, I could potentially be swayed ; )

I do think we all settle in a way . . . maybe settle isn't the right word for it though.




Edited 5/1/2007 11:11 pm ET by cfk_3
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 11:25pm

>I do think we all settle in a way . . . maybe settle isn't the right word for it though.<

I was going to say this same thing earlier.

I wouldn't say we "settle." I just think that maybe we realize that what was important to us 10 years ago ( or five years ago, or one year ago or whatever) ... just isn't that important anymore. It's more like our priorities change.

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 1:23am

Well, in my case, priorities have changed along with a few other things and some things are in slightly different places and some things, well, they were not even there ten years ago but I digress. Looks do matter and I can't pretend that they don't. I don't have the balls or the energy to go after the same types of guys I was chasing in my early to mid twenties. I wish I could say that I can and do but naw.

It's funny, through myspace I am able to "see" people who I haven't seen in a decade or more. I look at some of them and think "Wow, they have aged" then reality sets in and I realize that they are probably thinking the same thing when they see my mug.

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:11am
No I don't find number 10 but I don't find Matt Damon sexy either. Go figure.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:42am

...well atleast you pointed that out. I don't really care - I wasn't asking you to find the guys I find attractive, attractive!

This was actually suppose to be a funny post but yeah we do all eventually settle!

cheerio!

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:59am

RE: the checking other people out - it's natural to appreciate beauty - heck, I check out hot women, and I have zero interest in having sex with one. But it can and should be done with respect of your SO in mind. Looking - OK. Gawking - not so much.

RE: settling for the best we can get? I can't imagine settling. I've dated really hot guys (one was a dead ringer for Ashton Kutcher but was dumber than a shovel - he lost his attractiveness REAL quick) and guys who were geeky and average guys and guys that I found attractive but my friends didn't.

I guess my point is - your SO is YOUR hottie - or I'd hope you wouldn't be with him.


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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:42am


Owww please someone give me a man with a looks of Jon Bon Jovi and a heart of my (also quite a looker in my eyes) boyfriend!

Joking! :)

Rocklady.

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:56am

I think we all settle in some aspects so we get exactly what we want in others. We settle for someone who's a bit thicker around the middle or has a bit less hair so we don't have to settle in ways like he makes us laugh, he protects us, he's completely present with us, etc.

I was out 2 weeks ago and the place we were in was almost empty and all the guys in there were the so called "hotties" but as good as they all looked I didn't even need to talk to them to know exactly their type, they are the good time guys, who are all about "me, me, me" and no one else. They are the guys who spend more time on their 1in spikey hair than I spend on my 10ins long hair. They scan the room looking for drunkest hottest girl so they can love her and leave her. Its old to me now. Might have been fun when it was my time but I don't want that anymore.

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