Basically we all settle...

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Registered: 03-16-2007
Basically we all settle...
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 4:24pm

So... I was thinking the other day (I know I know - bad idea... thinking) after I watched a yummy man specimen run by our car as we were driving down the street - and my boyfriend turned to see me twisting my neck to watch as long as possible... OOPS!!!! :)

The guy running was Hot! Muscles, tanned, a big... well I don't know that! But obviously a guy that I could never get! I'm not nearly fit enough, blond enough or prone to alcohol (I guess I just assume those kind of guys like to go out and Par-tay!). So my boyfriend was like "you can NEVER say anything when I look at another girl" and I was alittle embarrassed that he caught me gawking because I hate it when he does it - but if BF had a body like that... I'd have no reason to look at other guys. and so it goes... if I had a body like some of the girls I know he gawks at... he'd have no reason to look at other girls (or that's the theory - but I'm not sure it would test positive).

So... my POINT... are we all just settling for the best we can get... looks wise? Like I'd LOVE to land me a Patrick Dempsey (okay I could probably get a Patrick Dempsey-type without the fame induced ego, oh who am I kidding! :p) - how about a Antonio Sabato Jr. or Matt Damon or Nick Lachey... oh my!!!! But I KNOW I could never get one of those guys... or even their less famous version! So... I stick with my own personal hottie BF (who I love for so much more than looks)... that by society's standards and average hottie-on-the-street standards... wouldn't really rank! :( And vice versa for my BF for me... I'm "as good as he can get"... or atleast we assume this. I have my Jennifer Aniston moments (when I get my hair highlighted) and that must be enough for him!?

But overall... isn't it fair to say we all have to settle for the best we can get!? ROTFLMAO

Okay that's enough of my random rambling for one day!

A side note: I searched for "sexiest men alive" and found this 2005 list... look at #10... do ANY of you ladies find him sexy? :p http://www.people.com/people/gallery/0,,1113899_1129983,00.html

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:48pm
I used to always think of my STBX-H as a hottie (of course, that's normal), but when the relationship soured and we split, my "hottie" H now seems repulsive to me. So, now I hope to find a man who has a great personality first. Looks, I'm willing to compromise as I'm not drop dead gorgeous myself. I do appreciate a man who tries his best to look as good as he can and not be a slob (for lack of a better word), which is exactly how I try to be myself. So, I don't look at it as settling, but for me it's finding someone who compliments me. What really disturbs even me is that I'm starting to find slightly older men attractive. I'm 37 and now get attracted to men in their mid to late 40's, I don't know what it is about them, something about maturity and intelligence may be that I'm not really detecting in my own age group I guess. Now if anyone finds that crazy due to prior knowledge, enlighten me because I don't "go there" yet, so it's just MHO right now, don't know them too closely for sure. That's why I'm still single because I have to do a lot of soul searching for the forceable future.

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