Be careful what you wish for....

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Be careful what you wish for....
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Wed, 05-14-2003 - 4:29pm
I jokingly told a guy friend of mine who decided that he was going to help me meet some new men that I want a "buffet". Wouldn't you know, he came through for me. On Friday night, I'll be going out with a bunch of his friends, two of whom he thinks I'll like. He already mentioned to one that there was someone he wanted him to meet. This ought to be an interesting situation. I'm not a big fan of going to clubs, but agreed to it on this occasion. Now I'll be spending the next 2 nights trying to figure out what to wear.
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Wed, 05-14-2003 - 7:01pm
Well, all I can say is enjoy the buffet cause they don't come along very often! I can't decide whether that would be more pressure, or less pressure than usual. I mean, on one hand, you have more than one guy that you may be trying to impress, but on the other hand, if you don't impress one, you can always work on the other!

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 9:44am
I'm not quite sure about that either. I'm bringing a friend along so I'll feel more comfortable. Hopefully she'll be interested in different men than me.
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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 8:34pm
Well, unfortunately, my friend and I were interested in the same guy on Friday night, but my guy friend who made the plans called today and told me that the guy of interest to both my friend and I was actually interested in me. I was shocked! A few months ago I might have seen him and just moved on because I always thought I'd never have any chance with the really attractive men. But, since he was with our group, I actually got to talk to him a bit without the awkward feeling of approaching a stranger in a bar. Not only is he good-looking, but he seems to be a fun and interesting person. I don't want to get my hopes up about him, but just knowing he's interested gave me a much needed ego boost.
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 2:44pm
So did he get your number? Are you going to see him again?

Let us know what happens!

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 2:51pm
He did get my number. My friend gave him my work and cell numbers, so now I get a little nervous every time the phone rings. I hope he calls soon, so I can be a little less stressed! I think he'll be around next Friday night too, but only for a little while. He's a cop and works nights, so he can only hang out with us until 10:30 or so and then goes on duty. But, if he does call, perhaps I'll see him sooner than that. I'm still not 100% convinced I'll hear from him. I'm such the pessimist!

But, I do have another concern. I'm worried about how my friend is going to take it when she learns he's interested in me. I know her interest came primarily from how attractive he is, because she didn't speak to him much, but I'm still afraid it might bother her. Any advice on how to handle that?

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 5:48pm
Does she know you're interested too? If I'm interested in a guy, I usually try to mention it first b/c my best friend seems to like anything that breathes. I have to jump in early! Since he's interested in you and not her, I would just mention that he asked for your number. If she gets upset over a guy she hasn't really even talked to, then she's not too concerned about your happiness, now is she? It's hard to find a guy that clicks, so I wouldn't pass up the chance.

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 6:52pm
I did mention it to her first, but later in the evening when I mentioned my interest in him to my other friend, she chimed in that she liked him to. I'm sure her interest would have diminished if she had talked to him because he's not at all what she's looking for, but he is more of what I'm looking for. He and I have several interests in common and I don't think she has anything in common with him. I think I'm going to wait and see if he calls and only tell her if he does call and only when she next calls me. I don't want it to seem like I'm rubbing it in that he was interested in me, not her.