Beginning to fear being single forever
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|Fri, 10-21-2011 - 12:28am|
Hello...I am actually embarassed to even post this, but just wanted some various opinions...I have been single for a while....Im 28 and havent had anything even remotely significant since age 25. I broke it off after 5 years, a great guy, but at the time I wanted to be single and was afraid of "missing out" (been single forever now, jokes on me, I guess...turns out...there wasnt better out there =(
Anyway....I date a whole lot...have been set up...gone out w/ coworkers, met people at bars, online...etc. I just moved to a new state and I must say...the men here are basically the same as before....Obviously, the common denominator is ME so I must be doing something wrong. Somehow I always seem to be the rebound, the fling, or the one nighter. Most men really do just want to jump in the sack immediantly...I have a hard time dating younger men because of this....they really dont seem to want to get to know the woman (other single friends of mine say the same thing) dating older men is hard as well because they tend to have ex issues, a kid, or something else odd.
I guess, without complaining too much....while I have enjoyed my single time...Ive begun to long for that intimacy of waking up next to someone...have someone to cook for, meeting each others families...you know LONG TERM stuff. Sometimes I think if I met someone tomorrow....then it would still be at least 2 years before an engagement or anything....I know it seems dumb...I guess it feels old to me...which is STUPID!!! Lots of people in relationships long to be single again. (Sadly....a yound and dumb me, I was one of them)
I guess I want to know how can I learn to enjoy my alone time w/o constantly putting this weird pressure on myself? I feel like I am already wishing away this next year of my life....I force myself to go on dates when I dont want to because, well, he could be THE ONE.... its all so exhausting. I have other areas of my life to enjoy....right?
Anyway...just wondering if anyone else feels similar??