Being available for love

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Being available for love
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 4:41pm

Well, I started thinking today that after enjoying great sex for the past few months, I really don't want to give that up. Prior to that, for quiet a few years, my sex life has been so bad and it happened so infrequently that I really feel that I missed out on something special.

So I signed up on a dating site yesterday, stating that I'm looking for a FWB for now, of course, men like that and I received a lot of replies. Some are single, some are attached, but a few interesting candidates.

However, my main goal in life (regarding men) is to find LOVE. So then, I started wondering: if I'm enjoying sex with someone (lets say, there's nothing much more between us or it won't work for whatever reason), can I still fall in love with a guy that I meet at some point ? Or should I be totally single ? But then I'll be missing sex. And I don't know how long (if ever LOL) will it take for me to find love.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 8:25pm

I have had FWB's and I like them.


Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 8:38pm
It's gotta be with someone you don't mind losing. Mine is pretty much over- haven't heard from him in almost six weeks- and I'm not really hurt. I would have liked to have been the one to end it (which I guess it was mutual since I haven't texted him either), but that's it. Finding someone you don't mind losing yet you have enough chemistry with to want repeated sex is tough.