Being Single in a Disaster sucks

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Being Single in a Disaster sucks
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Mon, 11-05-2012 - 10:35am

Hello everyone;

Well after I read Julia's post about how she wants to have fun on the boards again I was hesitant to write but I love you guys and know you are thinking of me and want to know what is giong on .. So I will combine singleness with tragedy..

We are still okay but havent been able to return home yet and still in some areas no power, heat or water and now no gas.. The gas lines are so long and its rationed and most stations dont have any.. Its not good but we are hanging in and surviving the best we can. My area was hard hit and its still a war zone and the area is a ghost town and shut down ...

I finally realize more than ever it sucks to be alone when a disaster hits.. I do have friends who are concerned but as we have talked about before its not the same as having a partner who truly cares and is there for you... Its such a worse feeling of aloneness when you have to think about how to get water and heat and blankets and no one is there for comfort..

I hope and pray that God provides someone for all of us because if anyone has to go through something tragic its so much better having someone around to deal with it.

These are such hard lessons and I am learning more and more each day who is there for me and who isnt.. In the end we all have to stick together because all we have is each other no matter what. So today hug your sister, brother, mother, child,smile at strangers.

thanks for caring as i know you all do....

Take Care for Now and will give updates if anyone wants them.. I realize the boards arent too much fun lately but hey it still gives me comfort and a sense of some normalcy..

FREE

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 10:45am

Cry

Sorry, didn't think. I was only trying to somehow inject some sort of fun into what's become a very boring place.

I'm so terribly sorry about what you're going through. It's just beyond tragic. I've been to NY and can visualise some  parts of it.... now all destroyed and abandoned... Cry

 Do you have water and electricity where you're staying? How long can you stay there? By gas you mean petrol?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 11:08am

You are so right.  I was very lucky not to get any sorm damage except for a mild leak in the roof, but it still made me nervous.  I wasn't totally alone since my 17 yr old son was home, but it's scary when anything like that happens--not only do I not have anyone to depend on, but being a mother, I have to be the one that others depend on.  I also hate it when we have a big snow storm & I have to go out there & shovel--oh wait, I had to do that when I was married too.  lol

I really hope that you get your home back soon & the gas situation gets back to normal.  I feel bad for the people who lost everything.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 7:19pm

We were talking about the gas situation at lunch today.  Here, if the power goes out (most houses are electric heat), there are fireplaces.  People in the country can even light a fire outside if they need to.  If you don't have a fireplace, chances are your neighbor does.  I remember a horrible ice storm when I was 3 or 4 that knocked our power out for days.  We slept on our neighbor's floor because they had a fireplace.  I can't imagine living in a place where that's not the norm and you don't have an alternate way to keep warm.  It is tough going through any sort of hardship alone.  That's why I'm so thankful for this board.  We're here for support whenever you need it. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 8:19pm

Freeatlast,

Sorry you're going through tough time right now. I've felt that way many times when I have to deal with issues with my house. Not of the same magnitude I'm sure but nevertheless, I understand the feeling. I have to tell you though having friends and family around who love you is all it takes. Having a partner would be nice but not really necessary. I know there's nothing like having a man around who can hold you baby you through this time is nice but it's only but a passing feeling.

I've been meaning to try your empowering technique you posted a while back but so much on my plate now. I should really take the time though.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 9:04pm

Hello again..

No its okay Julia .. From many of your posts you are straight up and a bit rough around the edges (lol) .. That is fine because that is who you are... We are staying at my son and his gfriends place and thank the Lord we have heat, hot water and food and drinking water.. My mom is here with me and we are hanging in.. I guess we can stay as long as we want but I feel like we are imposing although we are the most blessed people to have this place to go to..  Many people either went to relatives or shelters and  yes to keep warm or light fires and stoves.. Everyone is helping out in the bad areas and we are all doing the best we can.. I feel so bad for people without heat but the city is  making alternative housing and arrangements for the elderly now and it seems that alot of help has arrived... We still have no power and yes the gas lines (petrol) the stuff you put in a car and generator are scarce but it seems some stations have gas and some dont..some people have generators but they are pricey and either have had them or bought them on their own..

Yes; Shy.. Most people are sticking together and helping and the Red Cross and Fema and local places are helping out now.. ...

Of course its a blessing to have friends and family and whomever can help and that is a huge relief..

The unfortunate part is that while things are moving ahead there is a new storm of wind and rain and snow coming on Wed. and that might knock out the power again and more tress will come down.. So wish us luck and send hope and prayers because we need them once again..

Take care Everyone

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 9:16am

Free, I'm thinking of you today. Hugs and well wishes from TN.

People, please stop bemoaning about what's not happening on the board and simply start a new thread. I don't get the, "let's complain but not do anything proactive" mentality. You could take the same energy it requires to complain, and start a new, FUN, INTERESTING thread. Trust me, I have some fun in my day to day life but I wouldn't sum up my entire existence with that one adjective. If you're having more fun than me, GREAT, FANTASTIC! Please, I beg you, spread a little more of it around instead of *trying* to make others feel boring and insignificant. Thank you :]

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 7:53pm
Replying from my phone, because I can now! (Only quick reply works, though.) Cfk...I very much agree. And I'm staying out of the drama! Free needs support right now!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2005
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 10:30pm

Free-

Really thinking of you tonight!  I can't even believe that another storm hit, and hope you're doing OK.  I heard many lost power, and well, it's FREEZING out there so I just can't imagine it.  Mother Nature has got to let up soon....