Being single is a gift
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Being single is a gift
| Tue, 02-28-2006 - 2:38pm |
This was part of my horoscope today, and I thought it was a nice sentiment. I love horoscopes that are more advice than prophecies.
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"Being single is a luxury, because it gives you time to determine what changes you want to make in life. You can transform and rediscover yourself in any way you'd like -- you control your own destiny."
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It's good to remember this when we're feeling bummed about our singlehood (as I have been a bit lately).

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That's a good one.
Usually, my horoscope says things like: "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush."
How very telling...
I always find those little messages to be total bunk. Cause being in a relationship never stopped me from doing anything, let alone discovering myself and pursuing personal interests. If anything, I got to do whatever I wanted and still had someone who loved me to come home to. It was 10 times better than this!!!!
Ok, sorry to rain on an otherwise nice parade. I guess it is a good thought.
It was a good thought for me because I have been single for awhile now and I am still learning to appreciate the space to grow as an individual. I was in a relationship for a long time before that -- I did grow and change as a human while in that relationship, and I believe strongly that being in a relationship actually helps you grow even more (especially if it is a healthy one).
This thought just spoke to me today because I have been more focused on my loneliness and lack of relationship than I have been on the beauty of my life and the opportunity for growth that I have now, in this moment. It helped me realize that having a relationship is not my only opportunity to grow -- that my life is not stagnant right now because I am not with a man.
We all take what we want from sentiments like this. I don't expect it to mean the same thing to everyone as it did for me, but I always find it helpful to see the positive angle in a situation -- especially after having been too focused on the negative.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I opened a Dove chocolate today and the message inside said "Trust with your heart, not with your head."
Being single is certainly an opportunity for growth. I honestly believe, you grow even more in a situation when you aren't always thrilled to be there. It requires a lot more introspection and reflection. That can only be good.
For me, I know if I was married and had a family (two huge goals) I would never have been able to go back to school, changed careers, and found a situation as unique as my current adventure. I would be sitting in a cubicle dealing with high blood pressure or ulcers. Now, I have a job I enjoy and do quite well. Being single isn't always fun, but it isn't always bad, either.
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I totally agree. I definitely have that longing and I plan to have that in my life again.
I just am trying to find silver linings while I am single, rather than letting myself wallow in depression over it.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
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