On Being a Tease
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On Being a Tease
| Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:45am |
Ok I've been dating a guy for about three months and I think he might be long term boyfriend material. One issue we are having is that I'm waiting to become intimate with him.
We have begun openly talking about sex, and I'm looking forward to it, but I have been burned to many times rushing into it, so I'm making him wait. Like I told him, if we take our time we can savor evrey step.
Well he gets bothered when we are kissing heavily and I stop him when he wants to go further. He said I'm a tease. I think a few years ago that would have bothered me, but I'm
ready to embrace it. What's so wrong with being a tease?
Its not like i'm never going to have sex with him. why shouldn't a woman decide when and where she has sex? I don't think its about being better than her man, I just think its our role to lead them along and give ourselves at a time of our own choosing.
If it were up to most men, we'd just be having sex all the time.
Am I out of line?
Anne
We have begun openly talking about sex, and I'm looking forward to it, but I have been burned to many times rushing into it, so I'm making him wait. Like I told him, if we take our time we can savor evrey step.
Well he gets bothered when we are kissing heavily and I stop him when he wants to go further. He said I'm a tease. I think a few years ago that would have bothered me, but I'm
ready to embrace it. What's so wrong with being a tease?
Its not like i'm never going to have sex with him. why shouldn't a woman decide when and where she has sex? I don't think its about being better than her man, I just think its our role to lead them along and give ourselves at a time of our own choosing.
If it were up to most men, we'd just be having sex all the time.
Am I out of line?
Anne

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Let's not go overboard on your faith in men with me tallgirl... after all I was only speaking theoretically *smirk*
I cannot say personally on how I would react if I was in his shoes (or more accurately, in his pants)...
Mark
I knew this was going to be tough explaining this to women. When you are (we are, ie) hard as granite, all we ask for is a little compassion, a little softness and a little 'welcome home'. It works magic for us. :)
ps: in case you didn't know (don't think you did) every time a woman turns a man down, three new born kittens and three new born puppies choke to their deaths. This is totally unnecessary and entirely preventable.
Edited 8/22/2007 5:35 pm ET by capegirardeau
>> It works magic for us. :) <<
No kidding. We know. Doesn't mean you're entitled to it.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
"We have begun openly talking about sex, and I'm looking forward to it, but I have been burned to many times rushing into it, so I'm making him wait. Like I told him, if we take our time we can savor evrey step. Well he gets bothered when we are kissing heavily and I stop him when he wants to go further. He said I'm a tease. I think a few years ago that would have bothered me, but I'm ready to embrace it. What's so wrong with being a tease?"
You're not being a "tease". You told him straight-up what you wanted - which was to wait. If it bothers him, then he shouldn't kiss you. And any time he complains, point him toward the bathroom. If he keeps complaining, you may want to polish your Doc Maartens and kick him to the curb - no guy should pull a guilt trip on
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