Being "too nice"

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Being "too nice"
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Sat, 03-03-2007 - 12:58am
This doesn't exactly have to do with dating or being single but thought I would post about it here since I like this board and still lurk quite a bit.
I have this problem of people pleasing that I've had for all my life that I just can't shake. It's so bad that I begin to feel guilty for all the good things happening in my life right now because my friends are going through some hardships. I'll allow one of my friends to get away with things I won't normally allow her to get away with because I'm in a good place in my life and she's having a hard time. I don't even talk about some of the good things with others because I don't think that they'll want to hear it and I bend over backwards to help people and run myself ragged doing way too much. I'm not sure how to stop this self-defeating behavior. Does anyone else have this problem or any opinions on this? It's starting to affect me more and more in a negative way, more than it ever has in the past. I just want to enjoy my new found happiness and good fortune that has come my way recently after having a rough year last year without feeling guilty about it because I know I deserve it and stop saying yes to everything and doing too damn much. Just needed to get that out.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 8:21pm

Real Simple is a magazine, not a book, sorry if that wasn't clear. The article I referred to is in the current (March) issue.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 10:08am
It may be the same article I linked in my post.

Smile,

Deirdre

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