The best approach????!!!

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Registered: 11-26-2006
The best approach????!!!
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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 11:34pm

Ladies,

SO I totally had the hots for this guy in my class all semester,but I figure he would always just be eye candy.I mean we always had brief conversations if any, or if I asked a random question(directed to no one in paticular) he would always answer it for me, or if I was talking about something and he was around he'd make a comment, so as you can see our "realationship" is little to nothing.Oddly enough yesterday he stared at me and then came over and told me how he saw me walking along a certain street oneday and asked why, when I told him I lived there he told me where he lived (in like exact detail from the street name to the location of his house)Then we both came to the realization that were are pretty much across the street from each other. I said "Ill have to come by and say hi" and he's all like" yeah come by sometime." Then we went all into some other subjects. BOTTOM LINE: Now I feel like Im a love-sick high school girl again. I "accidently" passed by his house today(hoping to see his car parked),but it wasn't. Then later,it was parked at his house, but I was too scared to go by(plus I was looking kinda crappy)

THE QUESTION: How can I get the courage to go to his house without feeling like I do now(a stalker!!) Should I "accidently" be jogging around his way or bring a guy friend and knock on the door that way it seems more "casual"? I want to know more about this guy before I start going crazey and start planning the dress I'll wear to our first date!! LOL So guys, WHATS THE BEST APPROACH?

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 8:07am

If I were you, I'd let him make the first move. He knows where you live.

It's OK to be flirtatious, it's OK to "accidentally" walk by his house. You've already made it easy for him to approach you...you suggested you should drop by sometime, so he knows you're interested. Let hiim take it from here.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 8:28pm
Well, how do you feel about his coming to your house instead? This way, all you have to do is invite him at school. That puts the ball back in his court. Have a small little get together. Tell him you are just having a couple of friends over and he should stop by on ______ at ______ time. Lay out some appetizers and have some wine/beer on hand.
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Registered: 11-26-2006
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 8:41pm

Well all you ladies ideas are FANTASTIC, but I guess I forgot to mention:

1.) Im only 18 and Im living at my mothers house(she'd flip if I brought a boy over)
2.) I didn't give exact details to where I lived like he did. I just said the street that I lived on.(dumb move)
3.) Well there is no three I guess...lol

* Bottom line, I guess taking into what you ladies said. I should just go about it casualy? Maybe be like "hey since your so close maybe we should hang out this summer??" Sounds alright or a bit desperate??

LOL -confused teen

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 9:22pm
How about just approaching him after class, handing him your number and say: "Let's hang out this summer. Give me a call."