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| Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:11pm |
Here is my dilemma. I have a friend well he is my best friend and for the last 3 moths we been sleeping together and well pretty much living together. The thing is that from the first time we sleep together we agreed that we were just to be friends and that nothing was going to change. It seemed easier at the time to just take it as that. but now after 3 moths of this I am getting attached, and not only because we sleep together but because he has practically moved in, we live together as a couple. And I know that it is very stupid of me to have let this happen, but it just seemed ok at the time. The thing is that he has been talking to other girls during this whole time and well I’ve been out in a couple of dates also and he didn’t really agreed with me going out and well I get really jealous when he talks to other girls or even just mentions their name. there is 3 girls that he is attracted to but none of them are his girlfriend or anything and he told me that he likes them but that he is falling in love with someone else but he wont tell me who even though I am his best friend; he said that he wants to be sure before he says anything and that I will be the first person to know before anyone else. But I do know that there is one girl that he is always talking about and when he speaks of the future he mentions her, even though like I said they are not dating and well she actually lives out of the country and they have only met once and email each other once in a while.
But anyways the thing is that I am getting attached and because of it I been getting very moody lately. And this needs to stop and I know I need to talk to him about how I feel. But then I don’t want him to think that I am in love with him or anything because I am not…well I do live him but I am not in love with him. And well I just need someone advice about how I should approach this. He is my best friend and I don’t want to lose his friendship. What should I do?

Uh oh...is he sleeping with all those other girls, too?
Basic questions: Is her living off of you? Are you living off of him?
If this is an equal partnership, then let's go on, otherwise, move out and get a life. You seem to deserve better. Or make him move. He has chosen to use you while he continues looking. It's over.
So, he keeps up his end with the rent and the gas and the food. He says you will be the first to know as soon as he finds another woman. OK? No problem there. So why do you have to live together? Tell him to leave and you will stay his friend but no key, no sex before he proposes, and then you'll see. He is a CREEEEEP! A user. A loser!
You seem like a giving person but your friend is harming you emotionally. You can love a friend and not have to live with him (her. Be free to find your "live in forever man". This guy is not the one. Get him out! Stay his friend, continue the soft spot in your heart, but watch what happens when he has to be a man for a change.
Can you bear the resentment? And he will be resentful and maybe even stop being a friend. A beautiful heart like yours will get over it! And you will be free to find a real friend who talks only to you.
How come I never meet beautiful hearts like yours?????
thank you for your response. well to answer the first post, no he is not sleeping with other girls. LIke i said he doesnt have any sort of relationship with this other girls but he just talks to them, most of them dont live in our town.
I do agree with the second post about the type of tone I should take with him. and you are right banks is not fair that we are home together and he will be talkign to other girls. i guess more then anything I am feed up with our situation.