Best Reasons to Be Single

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Best Reasons to Be Single
Tue, 07-22-2003 - 11:53pm
The "singles" link on the relationships message board central takes you to a list of 50 reasons to stay single this summer. Many of them aren't the best reasons- cause I'd do those things anyway, even if I had a man! So, I thought we should come up with our OWN list.

What do you think are the best things about being single? Feel free to post as many as you like as many times as you like! The more, the better! Maybe we'll get our own list published!


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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 7:30am
I love the ability to change myself...reinvent myself whenever I feel like it without any question or critisim from a partner.

After I broke up with my ex I found that I went through a couple of different looks and loved the freedom of being able to change without worrying about someone else`s approval.

The ability to meet a new person everyday and being open to spending time with different person(s) whenever I want is also something I am finding amazing about being single.

I hope every person out here understands that it is always good to be single - it helps you reinvent yourself mind body and soul!!

- Athalia

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Registered: 06-19-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 9:40am
Having been single til age 47, I was always in control of my own $$. There's no worse feeling in the world than standing by and watching someone who's NOT in control w/$$, and knowing that YOU'LL be the one who's responsible for half of it.

I'd have to say that "being captain of your own ship"--w/$$, life, looks, work, play, sex, you name it--is a tremendous advantage of being single.

And speaking of that delicious hobby, that's another big plus: sometimes sex (safe, of course; there's no other kind) can be like being a kid in a candy store, sampling all the different flavors. One of my fondest memories is the time when I was w/3 different men in 3 different locations in 72 hrs--3 days of blinding satisfaction. It was like climbing Fuji, something you do only once and remember for the rest of your life.

And that happened just 3 yrs ago, while in my mid-40s, so age had nothing to do w/it--just having the means and opportunity. To say nothing of the "wanna"...


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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 11:41am
To add my own, I think the best thing is that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, however I want!

I can sleep in and not worry about anyone else being up and moving around (okay, well, my neighbors take care of that, but in theory it works).

I can leave the dishes in the sink for days if I want, and only do them when they start to move on their own if I want.

I can take trips and bring along my little sister/best friend/cousin/mom without worrying about how I'll hurt his feelings.


I get the WHOLE shower to myself all the time and don't have to worry about someone catching me inspecting for unwanted hair!

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 5:02pm
My favorite thing about being single is the freedom. No matter what it is pertaining to, money, sex. sleeping in. I am 40 years old, married since I was 16. I've been single for 2 years. People ask when I'm going to find somebody to settle down with, I say been there done that, now it's my time to enjoy life however I want and with who ever I chose at the time, I love being single. Go figure because when I got divorced, I thought I was going to just die. This has turned out to be the best thing that has ever happened to me!!! YEHAW!!!
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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 11:33pm
Best things about being single:

1. sleeping in.

2. eating what I want, WHEN I want.

3. doing laundry/dishes...or not.

4. cleaning the apartment... or not.

5. wearing pj's all day long.

6. if I spend my paycheck in 3 days, I am the one who suffers.

7. peace, quiet and the toilet seat stays DOWN!

8. my vacations last as long as I want, where I want, and no feelings are hurt.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:16am
The best thing for me about being single after finally ending an on again/off again long term relationship where I was ambivalent/anxious for no apparent reason was all of a sudden being able to feel happy about others' relationship happiness, engagements, marriages and pregnancies/births - because I knew that, out of this dead end relationship, the possibilities were endless and I felt empowered and hopeful.

I read some of the other responses - being in a relationship (I have had 6-7 long term and many shorter ones) has never stopped me from seeing the people I wanted to see, doing what I wanted to do - whether that was activities or changes to myself) - true, one of my long term relationships became strained when I went through major changes from age 23-27, but that was because I saw him differently, not because he didn't like the change.

I have gone on dates with controlling men - a few dates - it never works, and never will - same with controlling women in relationships.

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Registered: 07-07-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 11:31pm
it seems like more and more people now are flying solo, and i think it's great. when i think about my group of friends, it's the single ones who seem most content. it's my single friends who read books, see exotic films, take tap lessons and yoga classes. it's my single friends who are always laughing, always have the most stories to tell. when you're single, you have the opportunity to take risks that you may not take when you're in a relationship. you can pack your bags and go work for a year with the peace corp, or you can backpack around europe and see the sights. i think being in a relationship is great too, but i have to say my funnest stories and happiest memories are from my times as a single girl.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 1:46pm
a perk of being single: lack of relationship guilt... i tend to hold myself up to a higher standard when i'm with someone... hmmm, actually, that doesn't sound like a perk if i put it that way...
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 4:15pm
My favorite part of being single is HAVING THE WHOLE BED TO MYSELF!!
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Fri, 07-25-2003 - 4:38pm
That's along the lines of what I was thinking. It'd be awfully crowded if my 2 cats and I had to share the bed with a guy.