Best things about being...

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 7:43am

...in a relationship..


Do you ever wonder if you've lost sight of why you want to be in a relationship?

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:56am

What are the best things about being in a good relationship?


Ok so this one won't be hard for me as I've generally had really god experiences in commited relationships and I never forget how great it was. Here's my list:



  1. having someone love you, despite all your flaws and impefections

  2. having someone desire you even when you're having a bad hair day and even when you'd got a nasty cold, a zit or have gained 5 pounds.

  3. having someone to have sex with anytime you want it

  4. being missed when you are away

  5. falling asleep in someone's arms

  6. waking up next to a warm body

  7. having breakfast in bed together

  8. having dinner on the couch, watching TV, together

  9. not having to get all dolled up but chilling at home together

  10. having someone to share your successes and failures with and after a had day, telling you 'baby, its going ot be ok"

  11. having someone to run errands with you

  12. its cheaper, the man usually pays for things

  13. automatic activity partner and automatic weekend plans

  14. having sex knowing that this is more than lust, this guy is yours!

  15. making future or long-term plans

  16. vacartions together

  17. spending the holidays together

  18. always having a Valentine and New Years kiss

  19. walking around holding hands

  20. being on someone's speed dial

  21. having a reason to wear lingerie

  22. trying out different sexual positions and acts

  23. feeling needed by someone

  24. knowing that you mean something and are valued by at least someone in this world

  25. knowing that for no reason at all besides your natural lovable-ness, someone chose you, out of all the other options in the world

Now when I come up with a list for how great is it being single, it's not nearly that long. In fact, I can maybe name 3 things. Go figure!

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 11:45am

I'm in one now (we just passed the 2 month mark) after not having been in one for a while--and I have to say, for me, the single best thing is, not having to go on dates with new guys!

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:23pm

Oh, I am so relieved it wasn't another "best things about being single" thread. I'm so sick of those. :)

You said...

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:28pm
Yea, Sheri! :) I'm glad you are enjoying this new guy.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:35pm

All of the things that you've mentioned, plus the sharing of your

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:49pm

'..but there are definitely negatives'..


Negatives? What negatives lol? IMHO only, in an established all around happy LTR where the two people in question connect on all fronts, are at the same page in life and don't live in each other's pockets - have a life that is 'theirs' and a life that is 'his' and 'hers'

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:51pm
>>...you every day that at last, your life has a meaning. <<

I am sure you will get flamed for this, but not by me.

I think, for me, the key is that your life has meaning to another person. Someone cares that you exist, and someone would miss you if you were gone. Sure, my parents care, my sisters, my friends, God... but there's something really nice about having someone care who is an intimate friend and partner.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:53pm

Negatives? What negatives lol?


Ha ha! I have to agree there. I think it depends on your own needs and personal experiences but I know when I had a long-term boyfriend, there were few negatives. Actually, the only one I can think of is the emotional rollar coaster that comes with being emotionally attached when things go wrong. Other than that, I found it pretty blissful. Actually one of the happiest times in my life.


But I guess unless you've been there, some people may not understand.

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:55pm
Same here! I agree too. Your family has to care really. And your friends too if they want to hang out with you. But to have someone come along who truly didn't have to, decide that you are worthwhile enough to stay and incorporate you in their life too? I think that is something very special. And it does give your life more meaning if you know that you are highly valued by someone that didn't have to.
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 1:00pm

Well that's just it--I don't really think this has the potential to be a serious LTR so I wonder if I'm doing the right thing by foreclosing other options for the time being (that's the main negative).

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