Best way of breaking up
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Best way of breaking up
| Wed, 12-21-2005 - 6:17pm |
I see that a theme in one of the discussions is how guys and gals break up.
So I am curious if there is such a thing as a "good" breakup process, i.e. is there a good way of breaking up? and if so, have you either done it that way or had that done to you?
For me, my intention is that it should NOT be a surprise to the other person when that happens. I think that is the hardest part... expressing doubts, fears about the relationship BEFORE the final announcement. I hope to be able to discuss before anything like that happens.
Views? Experiences?
Mark

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I've never been on antidepressants.
Your conclusion doesn't make sense...
Could it be what I said in another post?...., that men have thicker hides and don't take everything so personally, so emotionally..., hence better suited to dating.
That doesn't make men more suited to dating.
***he wasn't a moron when you started screwing him, was he?***
THAT was beyond uncalled for.
I don't know how to respond to that Lesley..., how I pick these women..., I live my life, meet someone, we either hit it off, or we don't..., if we do we keep it going until it ends. Sometimes that includes marriage/divorce sometimes not.
You make it sound like shoppimg..., did I select this girl with the right traits or not. I didn't go to Girls-R-Us for these women..., they appeared in my life and we fell in love.
I suppose one could get cynical about love..., don't give much benefit of the doubt and bail when any red flag comes up..., but that kind of defeats the idea of love..., of soulmates who can overcome any obstacle. I mean if she were obviously alcoholic..., duh..., no go.
Also, just because the relationships fails does not mean they are any less loving or nurturing...,
..., for example, my second wife and I had a son..., he was born at 27 weeks , 1lb 12 oz..., he had heart surgery, eye surgery, hernia surgery..., he was on 90% oxygen for the first 3 months of his life and almost died 3 times..., he continued to have medical problems as well as siezures till he was 6 years old..., he was on so many meds he acted like a zonked out heroine addict most of the time...., the love and support we gave each other, and gave to our son was so beautiful, so wonderful...., never have two people been as one or more nurturing.
So we were divorced later but that in no way detracts from all those wonderful things or from how great that boy is doing now.
When I date I don't read into everything..., I go with my gut..., I just don't think an analytical look at the woman I want to love will help.., to me it sidesteps everything love is about.
OK so obviously not all women are on prozac..., I wouldn't have believed it from my experience but what can you say? Bad luck on my part? I certainly didn't find out about that until well into the relationships..., these kind of things just never came up as topics especially after getting intimate and deeply involved.
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