BEST WEEKEND EVER............?

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Registered: 11-05-2004
BEST WEEKEND EVER............?
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 3:32pm

OK..I know i've written in i-village so much for advice, but you guys are just so good at it, i love turning to it!

Well, I just had an amazing weekend, I went out of town four hours away to this trendy club/bar place and danced the night away with this very hot guy. He was really nice and I asked him to walk me back to my hotel because my friend went out with her friend.. and he did. And I'm not gonna lie, I asked him to come up. Well we did.. and no sex, but you know. We're drifting in and out of sleep and just laying there and whatnot... and he tells me all these things that women are DYING to hear...such as.. "you're beautiful-i will buy you a plane ticket and you can come stay with me-i honestly feel like i'm falling for you-etcetcetc" Just everything good.. he even said a few times "look in my eyes when i say this so you know i mean it".. Even when he stirred awake he'd be half asleep and whisper, "i like you sooo much..." and he even promised he wasn't drunk at all. He sure didn't seem drunk. Well... I left Sunday and he said he'd call the next day and he didnt. But he also did just get a new job that makes him work until midnight, so i'm giving him some time...

I'm just wondering.. does anyone think what he said was BS? have guys ever gone that extra mile to say things like that and they were completely lying?

aaaaaaaaghhhhhhhhhh.. what's everyones take on this? I am already buggin out and it's been one day...

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Registered: 06-12-2005
Tue, 07-19-2005 - 3:52pm
HMMMMMMMM good question I am not sure he could have just said it just for the sake of saying it but if he hasn't called you in a week I would move on to someone better for you deserve it but he does call you soon then more power to the both of you !!
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 3:52pm

Shutter, one never knows with these types of scenarios. Something may come of it or, it may not.

To answer your question outright, I will have to say, yes, it has been my experience that guys DO go the extra mile to say things such as this and they WERE completely lying. I would suggest trying to stay occupied and see what happens down the road(but don't hold your breath).

Good luck.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Tue, 07-19-2005 - 4:04pm
As suggested by bbw - I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you. But I have a question for you - why are you so obsessed when you just met this man? I can understand being excited and happy but not being worried and distracted.
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 4:08pm
i am not obsessed... i am excited and happy. i mean come on who wouldn't be? gorgeous guy whispering sweet nothings in your ear all night.. that doesn't happen everyday to single girls so of course i'm going to be a little anxious/skeptical/excited about what's going to happen if anything.
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 4:12pm

I'd be laughing my behind off if a guy I barely knew were to say those things to

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 4:18pm
yyyeahhh guess i'm just gullible.
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 4:29pm
Assuming that you are not being sarcastic, don't beat yourself up. We've all BTDT.
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 5:03pm

I am with Shy on this one. I would be laughing too. If he wasn't a player, then I would find it a little bit desperate to be so gaga after just meeting. But that is how I am - not big on the poems and roses. I am more of a make me laugh and challenge my brain than whisper sweet nothings kinda gal. But I understand that this appeals to some women and that it was really nice to you.

I used the term obsessed because you said that you are "buggin" and your post has a lot of thought and analysis for someone you just met. I am just wondering how you get emotionally invested so quickly. Not judging - wondering.

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 6:01pm

You wrote:

"I'm just wondering.. does anyone think what he said was BS?"

Yes, I think what he said was BS. He sounds like a total player, to be saying those things after knowing you for a matter of hours.

Sheri

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 6:28pm

I am just wondering how you get emotionally invested so quickly.

i am wondering that myself too, trust me.

i am a hopeless romantic i suppose.. i don't know. i figured if he was being honest, then i could let myself open my mind up a little to the possibilities. i guess if we speak soon, i will find out what was really going on. and even if we dont speak, i will know.

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