Birthday party update
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|Mon, 08-11-2014 - 2:27pm|
Well I'd say it wasn't really a "party" perse, more like just a dinner. There were supposed to be 8 people total, it ended up being 4, plus one person came late cause she had to work. I was a little frazzled as even the friends who were coming were running late so the time was getting pushed back. I must say that I am annoyed about how adults can say they are supposed to go somewhere and just don't come and don't call--it would be one thing if we were just hanging at a bar, but when you are going to dinner, that's rude. I talked to one of the guys not that long before we were supposed to go to tell him everyone was runing late and his response was "oh thanks for calling and reminding me. My mom went in the hospital so I am cleaning her house now." Yet he didn't say definitely that he could not go. But that is typical of this guy--he always says that he is going to go somewhere and then doesn't show--I don't think I'll be inviting him anywhere again.
One interesting thing to me is how the one man who did come was perceived. this is someone who is new to our dance school but I figured he seemed friendly enough and we are always lacking men, so why not invite him? My friend "N" had all these negative things to say about him, while the other woman who was at dinner, the one who came later and I did not share her opinion at all--of course to each their own. N is the youngest one (10 yrs younger than me) plus the most beautiful and I don't know if she is very picky about men or just negative about them in general. Her last BF was a very social guy and good looking but he was too controlling--they are still friends and he ended up taking us out on his boat later that night so maybe she still has some attraction to him and even though she knows he's bad in a relationship, she still wants a man like him--I don't know.
So she was criticizing the guy for bragging about the restaurant he owns because he was showing us pics on his cell phone--it has a nice deck and it's next to a river--looked really nice. To me, that was not bragging. I agree that he is socially awkward--he's never been married and I assume he was devoted to his career. He has a Ph.D. so he's kind of nerdy and he's on the quiet side. I told her that we have to look at the positives--at least he showed up when he said that he was coming, he brought me a plant for a present, he chipped in to pay for my dinner, when the friend arrived late he bought her a drink, etc. So at least he tries to be polite. She recently went out with another man (a friend of a friend) and he likes her way more than she likes him. He took her to a play and at the end of the night, he said he wanted to 'steal" a kiss--she was turned off and said that was obvious that he knew that she didn't want to kiss him so why did he go for it? I said that maybe she was taking it too literally (English is not her first language) and maybe he didn't mean it like she thought and was only using it as an expression. So maybe now I'm thinking that she is just very harsh on how men act and no one is going to measure up to what she wants.