birthday weekend, part II

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Registered: 11-28-1999
birthday weekend, part II
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 10:45am

Last night I went out to dinner w/ this single parents meetup group--I have only gone out to 2 events so far and they were both dancing in bars, so you don't have that much chance to talk.  So we went to this place near me--there is a marina and they have about 5 restaurants, all w/ outdoor seating & bars and then there are condo complexes further back--I haven't been there in quite a while.  It's a really lively place on a summer weekend.  We had a nice dinner--there were 15 people, of that there were 4 men, one of whom was there w/ his DW (they had met in this group).

So I was sitting near one end of the table talking to some nice women, there was an empty seat at the end of the table and the last person who came was one of the men, who was the most boring guy ever.  He wasn't attractive but i wouldn't have cared if he was nice & could make good conversation--but he was really bragging about himself.  He is a professional photographer and brought his big fancy camera to take pictures (usually the organizer just takes pics w/ her IPhone & posts them to the website) and he had to tell us that he had just come from shooting a model and he made this documentary that won an Emmy, blah, blah--it was like he was on a job interview.  And of course since we were eating dinner, I couldn't move away and it would have been rude to ignore him.  I was thinking of the bad date stories & how this guy must be on a date!

Of course there was one gorgeous guy there who was seated too far away from me to talk to him at dinner and then when most of us were going to the outdoor bar after, he went home--not that I would have had a chance w/ him, cause he looked much younger, but I kept glancing over.  lol  When he left one of the other women said "I wouldn't kick him out of bed for eating crackers" so I guess I wasn't the only one noticing him.

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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 9:46pm

I"m pretty sure he was younger--they have online profiles and he said he has a 9 yr old son.  But I guess that's the downfall of having a dinner instead of going to a bar or party--you are kind of stuck talking to whoever is sitting near you.  There is this matchmaker kind of thing I have seen which is a progressive dinner party--it's always an equal number of men & women in a nice restaurant and you switch companions for each course so you get to meet different people.  Unfortunately it's really expensive--like $90 for a dinner, so I can't afford it right now, but it seems interesting.

Oh when I was admiring the boring guy's camera, someone else was asking whether he used only digital now and he said yes and started in on this speech about how he used to use XYZ camera and it was this fast, blah, blah--you would only know what he was talking about if you were very knowledgable about photography.  And when we were at the bar, I was standing w/ 2 other women and he made a reference to this movie that none of us had seen, so that went flat.  He mentioned something about the TV show Lost and I said that I didn't watch it but my son liked that show, so then he starts in on "remember when this character did this and this was the ending" and didn't I just say I didn't watch it so I didn't really know who the characters were?  It's not that he didn't ask any questions about other people but he was just boring.  There was a drunk guy at the bar who was saying some lame things to girls, but at least he was funny,

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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 5:24pm

It always amazes me when people go on about themselves. Don't they notice that their listeners have a glazed over expression? I think men especially feel the need on a date (even though this wasn't) to get that resume out there in order to impress, to prove how great he is, how much money, etc. I think for some men this comes from a truly sincere place: they really do want you to know all about them so that you can see what a catch he is. But even if it is sincere, it's really rude and boring. I've been on dates where the guy didn't ask me a single question. 

And at a dinner party, it's soooo boring when someone, man or woman, hogs the conversation. I went to one dinner party a few years ago where a weird woman just went on and on about local politics and all about this expose she was writing about it. I think a good conversationist should be able to speak on many subjects, not just ones that interest them. And it doesn't hurt to take an interest in your dinner companions by asking them a few questions.

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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 12:41pm
Good eye candy never goes unappreciated!

You seem to have enjoyed yourself and hey, at least you had some good stories to bring back to us! Glad you had a nice b-day!
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 11:13am
Those guys who brag like that annoy me, too! If I'm in the right mood, I'll start asking questions to either diminish their bragging (Which model? Hmm...never heard of that one.) or if it's something I'm familiar with, I'll brag right back and try to top them. I don't know why, but arrogance brings out the bitchy in me! It's too bad the younger guy didn't go out later. You could have at least said hi. Who knows- he could be one of those rare men who look much younger!